Flipping the Script: He Interviewed Me (Part 2)

So today is Part 2 of last weeks “Flipping the Script: He Interviewed Me” interview. (You can readPart 1 here).

Before we get into the interview, I just want to give a quick thanks to J.D. for calling me up and asking me could he interview me, and then coming up with some really interesting questions. There were a couple of times that I almost chocked on my water from shock at some of the questions that I was being asked lol, but I pulled myself together and tried to answer as best as I could. (Besides, I told him that nothing was off limits so I wanted to keep my word).

Just to give the new readers a back story, I have done several Male’s Perspective interviews for this site, and J.D. was one of the first guys that I ever interviewed. He called me up a while ago and asked if he could do a role reversal and interview me and I agreed. His rationale was that it would provide my readers a deeper insight into who I am as this site’s creator, as well as providing a glimpse into the mind of a woman in general. Obviously I don’t represent all women, but it’s always cool to gain a new perspective on something.

If you haven’t read Part 1 of the interview then it might seem a bit random just jumping into question 9, but this was basically one interview (of 15 questions) that I just broke up into two parts because I didn’t want to bore or overload ya’ll with too much reading in one setting.

So if you start reading below and it’s not making sense, considering going back to Part 1 first and then continuing here. Otherwise, to continue on in the interview, just check it out below.

Ya’ll have a good weekend and be safe J

Flipping the Script: He Interviewed Me (Part 2)

9.      Your family is a really close nit family. How important do you think it is for your significant other or spouse to get along with your family? Would you like your marriage to be separate from your immediate family?

 

Honestly, my family is a big part of me so I feel like if he can’t respect them then it’s almost as if he is disrespecting me. They have been there with me throughout my entire life and I have a lot of love and appreciation for them, so naturally I want my significant other to get along with my family and vice versa; we are just too close a family for anything different. At the same time however, I feel like once you unite with your significant other the two of you become one and begin a new family, with your spouse now becoming your top priority. You just have to decide what matters to you and what you are ok with, but for me it’s really important that all parties involved respect, appreciate and care for one another. As with everything else though, I guess the two of you just have to find that balance of what works for you guys.

 

10.  Who are you? I mean I know that you are waiting to have sex and what your beliefs and morals are, but who are you as a person? What can you tell your readers about yourself…what are your goals?

I am a simple yet complex girl. I enjoy life, I enjoy laughing, and I enjoy just being with people who are optimistic and want the best for themselves and others. On most days I don’t crave a lot of attention, and I am the happiest when those that I care about are taken care of and provided for. For me, people mean more to me than anything that I can or ever will possess, thus I try to value my relationships and take nothing for granted; cherishing every moment that I have.

In terms of my goals, I want to make a difference in the lives of others; particularly those less fortunate and/or younger girls who are just trying to find their way. There have been times in my past (and if I’m going to be really honest, even some instances in my recent present), that I felt loss and just didn’t know what to do next. But I know that as long as I am helping someone else, smiling as much as possible, and living life to the fullest that I am being who I want to be….Yeah, I think that about sums me up.

11.  Looking back on everything, you’re 27, single, and still a virgin, has it been worth it to wait? If so, why?

Absolutely! Waiting has been one of the best decisions of my life. I have been picked on, laughed at, and joked on, but none of that really matters to me. At the end of the day I have to answer to God for my actions, so this is how I choose to live my life. I know who I want to be and I am her.

Yeah, there are plenty of people walking around having sex and are seemingly doing just fine, but everything isn’t always what it appears to be.  There are a lot of people who are content on wearing masks and making it appear as though they have it all together and that their life is perfect, but that isn’t always the case and that’s one of the reasons why I decided to create this site.

There are very few people who talk about some of the possible consequences of being promiscuous. Sure most people seem to be doing just fine, but what about the girl who has low self-esteem and thus continues sleeping with others just to feel valued and validated, or the guy who only thinks about adding numbers to his growing list of ‘been there done that’ and not worrying about the impact that he’s having on other individuals or himself, or the teen who wishes that she would have never gotten into this cycle but now just doesn’t know how to get out of it….few people want to talk about that or warn younger people about those consequences.

So in short, no, I don’t regret my decision to wait. I would rather be ridiculed and called lame than to give myself away to somebody who is undeserving. I cherish my body, so I have to make sure that he’s the right one before giving away a piece of myself.

 

12.  Most people when they think about their honeymoon they think about where they are going, you are going to be thinking about having to loose your virginity. Do you think about that? Are you nervous?

Ummm…yeah, I’m nervous! I get anxious just thinking about it lol! I have no idea how that’s going to work. I pray to God that nobody comes up to me during the reception and just winks at me or gives me a crazy grin…I literally will die right there. I get squeamish just thinking about it!

In terms of actually loosing my virginity, (this is really weird by the way….talking about such a personal topic knowing that it’s going to be read publicly, but I said nothing was off limits so I guess back to the topic…), I think all of the above concerns are going to fly out of the window when the time comes. I am going to be with the person that I want to be with, and we will have pledged before God and man that we will cherish and respect each other for as long as we both shall live.

(….At least I’m hoping that’s how it goes. Knowing me I might faint or something, but we’ll just stick with hoping that none of those concerns matter when the time comesJ)!

13.  For the young girls that read your blog and follow your posts, what’s been the hardest part of remaining a virgin? What’s been the greatest joy?

The hardest part has been my dating life. In high school and college it was interesting because guys found it so appealing and intriguing to date someone that nobody had been with. As I got older though it seems to have had the opposite effect and now it seems like some guys wonder ‘what’s wrong with her that nobody’s been able to get it yet’. It really has been crazy to observe that mentality to shift.

That said, my greatest moment has been seeing the look on my girls’ faces (whom I mentor), as I tell them that I’m a virgin. They look at me and they’re like ‘you have never done it and guys still like you…so it is possible?!?!?!’

Daring to be different doesn’t just change my life, but it also impacts and influences other peoples’ lives as well…definitely joyful moments.

 

14.  Is there anything else that you would like to say to your readers?

To my readers I would just say thank you for continuously coming to my site and checking out what it is that I have to say. While there have been countless people who have sent me emails and messages, there have been some people who continuously and consistently go out of their way to encourage and inspire me and to them I say thank you from my heart. Ya’ll fuel me and help to remind me that every journey has its purpose.

To all of the teens and young girls out there reading this site, remember that you are more valuable than anything else in the world. Never allow anyone to degrade you or tell you that you are less than and never give yourself to somebody just because you hope that it will help them to like you more. You are a priceless treasure, and the sky is the limit for you. Reach for the stars and go after your dreams J!

15.  And if your future husband was reading this, what would you say to him?

 I’m waiting for you :)

 

-Virgin Monologuez