Be You ~ Nobody Does It Better

     You were born an


               Don’t die a


                                                                                                                -John Mason

Dream Big~ Anything is Possible

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Date Night- What’s In Your Closet???

Here’s a random fact about me: I interned in London for one of the top fashion designers in the world…yep- I fashion (ironically I’m not really into labels or brands though- I wear it all)!

That said, to me fashion is about expressing one’s self, so what I think is cute you might think isn’t really your style. So do what works for you- but have fun!

Sorry…I’m getting off track... I said all of that to say this: Today I decided to post some really cute date outfits that I would wear for various types of dates. Hopefully you’ll be inspired.

In my opinion, the secret to any great outfit is to be intriguing and fun while adding a dash of mystery, without showing too much or looking like you’re trying too hard.

So here’s my take on being sexy without being too revealing; your beauty should come from within- your clothes are just an extension/expression of that.

Let you light shine- - but look good while you are at it Winking smile


Outfit 1Casual Night Out

Rose Holdall Envelope Bag (Coming Soon)Peep Toes Lace Black Shoes

Bottoms: Black leggings (www.bangonthetrends.co.uk)

Shoes: Peep toe lace black shoes (www.romwe.com)

Top: Bird by Juicy Couture (www.stylecompare.co.uk)

Necklace: Leopard eyeglasses (www.forever21.com)

Purse: Rose envelope bag (www.romwe.com)

Earrings: Rose studs (www.forever21.com)


Outfit 2 - Meet the Parents     


   Petites Tutti Fruity DressSam Edelman Kellan Leather Lace-Up Wedge Shoes With Cut-Out Detail

Dress: Tutti Frutti Dress (www.missselfridges.com)

Shoes: Lace up wedges (www.stylecompare.co.uk)

Necklace: Gold figure w/ turquoise (www.forever21.com)


Outfit 3Reservations Only Date


PYRUS Mono Blouse - Retro Daze                                      


Miss Selfridge Gold Fireball EarringsL'Wren Scott Lace-trimmed silk-satin wide-leg pantsNew Look Exclusive Leopard Print Purse

New Look Limited Edition Metallic Heel Platform Shoes








Blouse: Retro printed silk blouse (www.donnaida.com)

Pants: Cream silk-satin trousers (www.stylecompare.co.uk)

Shoes: Metallic heel platforms (www.stylecompare.co.uk)

Earrings: Gold fireball spikes (www.missselfridges.com)

Purse: Leopard coin purse (www.newlook.com)


*What do you think? What do you usually wear for dates (whether it’s a casual night out, meeting the parents, or a fancy dinner date)?


Monologue Monday: Me

Monologue Monday

Statistics show that girls who are raised in single parent homes, who have no real father figure in their lives, are more at risk of being in abusive relationships, having low self-esteem, and becoming teen parents.
It is said that these same girls allow themselves to be put down or degraded by guys, because they don’t know how a man should treat a woman- they’ve never experienced it in their own homes, so they don’t know what’s normal or acceptable.
I am the product of a single parent home… but I refuse to become a statistic. My father died of a heart attack when I was ten years old, and even at that age I became determined that I didn’t want to be just another number to the growing data on the damaging effects that being raised without a father can potentially have on a girl….it’s by the grace of God that I’m still a virgin.

I was repeatedly made aware that in many situations girls try to find the love and acceptance that they should be getting from within the home, and locate it from outside sources. I realized that I was more vulnerable and at risk than most girls and that the odds were against me- if the data was right then I was supposed to be either an at risk teen, a pregnant student, in at least one abusive relationship, or at least suffering from low self-esteem and self-worth.
I shouldn’t have become a mentor to young girls, have never slept with anyone, dated really great guys that respected my decision to wait, or know my self-worth. It doesn’t make since…but that’s because it’s by the grace of God that I have become who I am.

I’ve always been a bit stubborn (or maybe different is the word), but I just never wanted to fit in; I never wanted to be a part of the ‘in’ crowd…what’s odd is that just by being myself I ended up that way anyway. I wanted to stand out and be different- I didn’t want to become a statistic.
If you grew up in a single parent home like me and you have read the statistical data about how the odds are against us, don’t believe all the hype. Yeah, we might be more at risk of having a teenage pregnancy or being in a volatile relationship, but that doesn’t have to be our future. Life is about choices and you can choose for that not to become your destiny -the only person that controls your fate is you.

You don’t have to be a statistic. God is my Heavenly father, and I have never felt empty or a void. You can be anything you want, and you don’t have to fit into the statistical mold- you can overcome whatever situation you are in… against all odds.
I did and I realize that it’s by the grace of God that I have become who I am.


I Want to Hear From You!!!

Guess what...I have gotten a few more guys to volunteer to interview with me and to answer all of those questions that you have been dying to know!!! (Ok...well dying is a bit dramatic but you get my driftJ).

So if you have any questions that you want answered from the males’ perspective- anything at all (nothing is off limits), then put a comment below or send me a private message at virginmonologuez@gmail.com. It can be anonymous or you can leave your name- doesn’t matter- I just want to hear from you.
To get an idea of some of the questions that have already been asked read here, here, or here.
Hope to hear from you soon!


Moment of Truth:

Sometimes I imagine my daddy (who died when I was tips), looking down on me from Heaven and it always stops me dead in my tracks from doing anything that he might disapprove of or that I may regret. If I wouldn’t do it in front of my family, then most of the times I know that I probably shouldn’t be doing it at all.


Monologue Monday: Greater Than The Game

Today is going to be a good dayJ!

Today is one of my most favorite parts about this blog- when we come together to share our stories with the hopes of encouraging one another. So today’s monologue is by the creator of Greater Than The Game: Chante Truscott; you can find her website here.
Many of you are familiar with An Athlete’s wife and her amazing story, and so I asked her if she would mind introducing her friend and today’s incredible feature to you. Here is what she had to say about Mrs. Truscott:
“Chante Truscott is such a giving, kind, and powerful woman of God.  She has a passion and desire to help single women understand what it means to connect with their spiritual husband before God blesses them with an earthly husband.  Her experiences in life have given her a heart of gold that God is using to connect with women all over the world.  She recently started a blog about her journey with Him, and I could not be more proud of what God is doing in and through her.  She would give anything for another person and her enthusiasm to share her story is a just one way in which she shows her love for the women that God connects her with.  I pray that something that she says today will touch your hearts as she has touched mine.  I am so blessed to have her as a sister in Christ”.
                                                                                           ~An Athlete's Wife

The household that I grew up in was not conducive to openly talking about sex with our parents. My mother got pregnant when she was 17, by her own choice, and because of her own decisions she instilled a “no sex rule”. The only talk that we had was “don’t do it!”
As an adolescent, I became extremely curious about the act of sex. Our household was not one of a deep relationship with Christ at the time, so I was not given the eternal impact of having sex before marriage. The closed line of communication between my parents and myself did not satisfy the questions that I had. I didn’t want to have sex but I was curious what it was about.
My first boyfriend took my curiosity as a sign of interest in engaging in sex and pounced on the opportunity to “educate” me. I did not enjoy the act of sex during the entire 5 year, tumultuous relationship. My soul tie to this person took me through a myriad of experiences that I was too young to comprehend. I could not understand why I was unable to loosen the grip his soul had to mine. I was not the only person he was engaged in a physical relationship with and I was aware of it, but felt helpless to do anything about it.
Even after I gained the strength to fully remove him from my life, the emotional damage this relationship had caused was evidenced in my further interactions with men. My college life was shrouded in sexual sin and lust for things and people that God never intended for me to have. God spoke to me during this time and revealed why sex is only intended for marriage. I had become a different person with mannerisms and tendencies that I did not recognize.
When you have sex with someone, your souls are bound together. You take on some of their characteristics, thoughts, and feelings. The more people you have sex with, the more your mind, body, and soul begin to look like ALL of them. God revealed to me a very ugly, cruel, stone-hearted individual who was staring back at me in the mirror.
At 21 years old, I made the conscious decision to allow God to cleanse me and purify me from my sexual sin that had haunted me for 7 years. I can truly look back over my life and see that God’s grace prepared me for my soul mate. My hurtful past was preparing me for my husband.
I don’t experience regret or shame today because that would be believing the lies of the enemy, but I can imagine how much sweeter my wedding night would have been had I been pure for my husband. As a couple, we are continuing to allow God to remove any remnants of the sin we both engaged in before we became one.
I would like to encourage each of you to wait until God joins you with your soul mate. Waiting for him/her allows your soul to be free and pure so their qualities can join with yours. It is important that our soul joins with the one person God designed for us. You can avoid “the multiple-personality syndrome”. Those are the things to leave behind for your pure connection.


The Male's Perspective: My Interview with K.C.

So, it’s that time again- time for a quick look into the male’s perspective. Each one of my interviews so far has been extremely fun and insightful. And while I think that we can learn from what each guy has told me, I also think that it’s important to remember that every guy is different. These interviews are just meant to shed light on how SOME men think.

That said, today you will meet K.C. (In general I want to use the guy’s name so that you feel like you know him- plus for me knowing their names just makes it that much more personal- but out of respect for K.C.’s profession - and the same goes for J.D. - they both requested that I not use their names; Leimoh said it was ok).
Now, just for a quick intro, K.C. was my high school sweetheart. I dated him longer than any other guy, and even after we stopped dating it took me a really long time to get back into the dating world (5 years to be exact but ya’ll don’t really need to know that lol J).
K.C. is a spontaneous, thoughtful, and really refined person. He has a passion for living and experiencing new things, and really enjoys the finer things in life. While we had our share of problems and sad moments, what I will never be able to take away from him is that he is compassionate and bighearted.
When he really cares about a person he spares no expense (and I’m not just talking monetarily because I’m not really into that), but he spares no expense to make sure that the person is well taken care of…guess that’s why he was able to capture my heart for as long as he did- he was kind and he really put me first. Enough bragging on him though, I’ll let you form your own opinion. Here is K.C.
The Male’s Perspective: My Interview with K.C.

So  you and I were high school sweethearts right? Yeah, we were. How long did we date? We dated for 2 years and 8 months.  So my questions for you will be geared towards the younger crowd. For all of my teenage girls- do you think that you can give them an accurate depiction of a guy’s perspective during that time? Yeah, I can definitely do that. Before we begin though, I want to ask you the same question that I have asked the other guys- why did you agree to put it all out there for the public and let me interview you? Because I agree with it. I think that what you are doing is really good and has the potential to help a lot of people. Thank you; I really do hope so. So are you ready to begin?
*Note- from this point forward in the interview everything that I said is in blue…any other color is his words, just added for emphasis*
1.     What do you think is on a guy’s mind during his teenage years?  He wants to explore and find out what’s out there. We are told all these things as we grow up, and at a certain point you just want to see for yourself.

2.     When a guy tells a girl that if she won’t have sex with him that he will leave her, is he just testing her? It depends on how much he likes her. If he doesn’t really like her that much, then nine times out of ten he’s probably just testing her. When a guy really likes a girl, then he won’t want to do anything to jeopardize that. If he doesn’t really care about her though, then he’s probably just testing her to see if she’ll sleep with him, and if she won’t he will probably eventually stop talking to her- but that just proves that he never really liked her to begin with.

On the other hand though, I believe that there are some guys who really think that being physical in a relationship is important. For them, they might just be trying to get what they feel they need. In those situations, if it doesn’t line up with your principals and beliefs, then you probably shouldn’t be talking to the guy.

3.     What did you think when I said that I didn’t want to have sex until marriage? Because we were so young, I thought you would change your mind. I honestly thought you were just saying it out of respect for living with your mom and being under her roof. I thought that once you got to college that would change.

4.     You were a virgin when we started dating right? Yeah, I was a virgin. Why did you tell me that you weren’t and do you think that lying to a girl is a common thing? I lied because I was embarrassed. I think that you asked me first, and I didn’t know if you were or not and so in case that you weren’t, I didn’t want to seem like an amateur, so I lied and said that I wasn’t. When I asked you and you said that you were though, I was like ‘dang I shouldn’t have lied’. I felt dumb. I was too embarrassed after that to tell you though, so I just went along with it.

5.     In terms of women and relationships, do you have any regrets? Nope, because I have learned from everything that I have been through. I used my experiences as learning tools. Like with you for example: even at that age, you showed me what a woman should be like. So I learned a lot.

As far as with sex, if you keep looking back then you will never move forward. I do want to say though that for a guy the potential for regret is no where near as great as it is for women. In general, women are emotional beings- sex is tied to their emotions and feelings. On top of that, they can get pregnant and just have to deal with a lot other baggage. It’s just not the same for a guy. Double standards are real.

6.     What do you think about sex before marriage? Honestly, I think it’s a reality because of the world that we live in. It’s all about expectations…sex is all that you see being displayed everywhere. It’s hard to find someone now who doesn’t expect to have sex before marriage, and to be with someone you have to be in agreement with them.

7.     How does a girl know if a guy is right for her? Find a guy that shares the same values as you. For example, if God is important to you, then find a good Christian man. If that’s not important, then don’t date someone who values that because it’s going to be constant conflict.

Also, find someone that treats you the way you deserve to be treated. I’m just going to keep it real and say that not every woman deserves to be treated in the same way. If you act like you don’t have class, then don’t expect to be taken to exclusive settings. If a guy really cares about you though, then he’ll do everything that he can to keep you happy.

8.     What do you think about girls who dress proactive to get your attention? How I can’t take them home to meet the parents. I automatically classify them into one category: EASY.

9.     Is there a certain type of girl that you wouldn’t date or bring home to your parents? One that I know that they wouldn’t agree with. My parents have been married for a really long time, and throughout their marriage they have always been into each other. That’s what we were shown as kids, and that’s what they would look for in the relationships that we show them. If a girl isn’t all about me- like really caring and just genuinely into me- then I know that I can’t bring her home.

Also, if they are loud, disrespectful, and just generally don’t know how to act in public, then I’m not going to introduce them to my parents.

10. What type of qualities do you look for in a girlfriend? Honesty. Also, someone that compliments me and makes me smile. Who doesn’t hold back or play games- she doesn't mind expressing how she feels to me. I don’t like it when a girl really likes you but tries to hold back because she doesn’t want you to know how much she cares, or because she thinks it’s a game.

You know that... You walked right up to me and just started talking to me and let me know that you were in to me. I really liked that. It’s good for guys to make the first move, but I don’t think that there is anything wrong with a girl making the first move either though.

11. Are you single? No, I’m not. What would a romantic date be like with you? I would show up with flowers and then wait for about an hour while she finished getting ready lol. Then I would take her to a reservation only restaurant, and ask them to customize the setting to her likes and desires- (I would find all of that out before hand though, so that I can make sure that she is really catered to). Then after a beautiful dinner, I would take her for a stroll and just spend some quality time listening to her and getting to know her that much more.

12. Since we dated so young and are still friends now, what is your opinion about “puppy” love? ‘Puppy’ love is before you know what real love is. You are too young to understand love, but you just know that they make you feel a certain way. I’m not saying that ‘puppy love’ isn’t real, because we experienced it, but I just don’t think that at that age someone can understand what love takes. Love is life altering, and when you are young, you might not be ready for that.

13. Earlier this week was Valentine’s Day, what advice would you give to the teenage girls reading this about love and relationships? Valentine’s Day serves two purposes. For people that have been in relationships for a while, it’s a reminder to do something out of the ordinary. On the other hand, for those that are just beginning a relationship or for the younger crowd, then it’s a way for someone to show that they like you and to put it out there in the open.

Valentine’s Day should NOT be about sex. It should be about letting you know that you are special. If a guy shows up with some generic candy and flowers and didn’t really put much thought into, then he probably gave the same thing to more than one person.

14. Why do you think some girls put up with so much stuff from guys and keep taking them back even after they have been wronged repeatedly? Many reasons... It could be because they are from a broken home- they feel a void because they grew up with no dad to show them what a real man is, or they didn’t see that example between their own parents, so they just go off of their own experiences. Then some guys grow up in broken homes, so they don’t know how to treat a woman because they haven’t witnessed it.  

Girls allow it because they don’t know any better. They don’t know their worth... You can’t give your heart to someone who isn’t going to cherish it.

15. Before we finish, is there any more advice that you can give to the teenage girls reading this? Yeah, don’t do what you see on TV. We think that stars are to be idolized for some reason, but they have just as many problems as we do; they are just people. Being provocative isn’t the way to be. Take your time and make a guy wait. If he really likes you, then he’ll stand by you and respect you. Don’t go with what pop culture says- most of these people are NOT happy.

On top of that, when it’s time for the real guy to come along, if you’ve been just living any kind of way then he isn’t going to want you. He could be perfect for you, and really have wanted to be with you, but your mistakes might be so big that he might not want to take all that extra baggage on.

Lastly, don’t compare yourself to a man. If you want to be treated like a lady, then act like one. Double standards might not be fair, but they are real. Guys can get away with things that you can’t if you want to be considered a lady. Being fast gets you old quick.


Virgin Monologuez’s Facebook Page is Here!!!

After about 2 weeks of creating and developing this blog, I just created a facebook page so that I could better interact with you! Really exciting stuff J. So when you have some time, please stop by and like our page (if you like): facebook.com/virginmonologuez.

Have a good day!
Oh, I forgot to tell you- we have another interview from the male’s perspective coming up tomorrow, and you won’t want to miss it! Talk to you soon…


Monologue Monday: Me

Happy Monday Everyone,

So for today’s monologue you have me- the author/creator of this site. While I want to feature other women for Monologue Mondays most of the time and allow them to share their struggles, successes, and advice as it relates to relationships and their past experiences, there are some times when you will hear from me.
I haven’t been in a lot of relationships and I’m still a virgin, so I think that it’s important to get advice from other women who have been there and experienced what I could never advise you on. That said though, I do have a story- I do have experiences and revelations that I can share with you that might be just as insightful and helpful.
So from time to time, please join me as I share myself and my stories with you from a virgin’s perspective. Here is a piece of me- my monologue for today:

Monologue Monday: Me
It’s a beautiful thing valuing myself and knowing my self worth. While I have had moments of insecurity, overall they are few and far between because I know who I am and what I have to offer. (And on the days that I forget, I have an amazing mom, brothers, godmother, grandmother, family, and friends who remind me. Yeah, you probably noticed that I didn’t say father, but that’s only because my father died when I was eleven, but that’s going to be a story for a different monologue in getting to know me).
All of that said, this rode has not been easy. I wish I could tell you that it’s easy to say no, or that it’s easy not to give in to peer pressure, or that it’s easy being alone sometimes because of some of the choices that I have made, but all of that would be a lie.
Life is about choices, and a lot of times those choices can be really difficult to make. To me it almost seems easier to say yes and just do it, then it does to say no and stand for what you believe in- but who am I to say how difficult a choice was or wasn’t for you? I’m just saying for me it would have been easier to say yes than it has been to say no.
Easier because I probably wouldn’t be judged as being lame because I don’t participate in the party; easier because people probably wouldn’t preconceive me as being judgmental just because I won’t participate in certain activities with them (but neither do I condemn them- people have to make decisions for themselves, and I won’t ever play God); easier because I probably wouldn’t be single or feel insignificant sometimes because I refuse to give up one of my most precious gifts-myself- to a guy.
In fact, I have been in situations where some guys have even said to me, “you are so beautiful and so cool- you would make the perfect wife- but you aren’t good girlfriend material. A guy wants to have fun, have sex, and enjoy life, and after that’s over then they want to settle down. I can’t sleep with you, so I don’t want to date you, but when I’m ready to settle down, you’ll be my first choice”.
That’s a blow to my confidence no matter how much self-esteem I have.
I have traveled the world, met some of the most amazing people, and had some of the sweetest jobs! I have laughed until I cried; praised God that I have the friends and family that I have, and smiled until my cheeks hurt- my life has been good.
My one desire though…my one dream… has been to meet the man that will cherish me and I him, and to love and adore him (and only him), until the day that I die.
It’s been hard ladies. I’m certain that if I didn’t have the values and beliefs that I did, then my life would be different. I’m certain that I wouldn’t be in a hotel room in another country working, while thinking about how I can encourage you. I would probably be in some easy relationship, giving of myself because it was easier, but I can’t do that.
You might not know me that well now, but I have never been one to settle. Sex isn’t everything, but my body is pretty spectacular- sorry if that sounds arrogant- and my mind is priceless. I can’t allow myself to entertain someone and have them obtain my heart and my body when they don’t deserve me.
The man who does deserve me will be the one that sees into my soul, and gets me. He will realize that I’m humble and compassionate, but confident and sassy. He will love that I laugh until my stomach hurts, and that I take life on full force. He will admire that I’ve waited for him, and thank God on the night of our wedding.
So there you have it women. The choice to wait isn’t easy. You will be ridiculed, feel lonely, maybe joked on or laughed at, but it will be worth it. I can’t tell you how I know that for sure now, but I just know.
Think about what you want in life, and make it happen. There will be consequences for any decision, but learning is half the battle.
Cherish yourselves, and regardless of the choice that you make, know that you have someone in your corner rooting for you. You will make it in life, and the right person will come along for you. I can’t tell you how I know for sure, but I just know.
Have a good day, and Happy Valentine’s Day. Regardless if you have someone or alone tomorrow night, hold your head up because you are beautiful.
-Virgin Monologuez

Beauty ~ Know Your Worth

Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.


Moment of Truth:

I wish that we would stop tearing each other down, and start lifting and building each other up.

What does one gain by breaking someone else’s spirit…haven’t you been there? It doesn’t feel good.


The Male's Perspective: My Interview with Leimoh

Hi everyone, how was your week? I hope it was good!

So today you will meet Leimoh. He and I dated towards the end of my freshman year of high school, and we have remained good friends every since.
He is one of the kindest, rawest, most sincere people that I have ever met. Seriously, I don’t think that I will ever meet another human being who is more loyal than him- ever.
I respect him more than words can express. He has been through so much in his life, and he has still come out on top. As you read the interview, I think you’ll find his responses perceptive, engaging, and perhaps even a bit painful to hear at times.
Don’t just take my word for it though; let’s see what he had to say about women and relationships:

1.     The questions that I’m about to ask you are personal. Why did you agree to let me interview you? Because I’ve known you for over 10 years. I know your character. If anybody else would’ve asked me to do it than I probably would’ve said no, but I know what your intentions are. You are just trying to keep it real for young women out there.

2.     What do you think about what this site is conveying to young teens and women? As far as its purpose and what I’ve seen of it so far, it’s a good idea. I think it’s good to let women know that they have choices, because it seems like somewhere along the way some of them forgot that.

3.     What does your ideal girl look like? Wow…umm I’ve never really thought about it before. That’s a good question. If I was to really think about it, I guess it just boils down to my preferences: I love a strong black woman- they are just sexy.

4.     What do you think about abstinence or virgins? Do you think relationships are better when you wait? I don’t know…I haven’t come across too many of them. You don’t find too many girls like that. In fact, you’re the only one that I know personally.

5.     You are in a relationship right now right? Yeah, I am in a relationship. What qualities about your girlfriend attracted you to her? Above anything else, she was one of the first people that I came across in a long period of time who respected herself. She had desires and maybe even wanted to mess with me, but she stuck to her standards. She had restraint, and I was attracted to that.

6.     One of your brothers just got married and another one is getting married very soon, our congratulations to them both. Yeah, thank you. So how do you know when you have found the ONE? What qualities does a guy look for in a wife? The most important thing to me is respect. There are a lot of women that don’t know how to respect a man. With that goes trust and loyalty; they all go hand in hand. How loyal do you think a girl will be if she sleeps with you the first night? If she did it with you then she’ll do it again- meaning another man can come along and top you, and it’s over…no loyalty.

7.     Speaking of sleeping with someone the very first time that you meet him, what’s your take on one night stands? 90% of the time it will never be more than what it is. That’s why it’s called a one night stand.

8.     With so many ladies wearing clothes that are barely there and getting lots of attention from guys, what can a classy girl do to be noticed? For me it’s not so much about what they are wearing as it is how they present themselves. Confidence is sexy, so it doesn’t matter what you got on if you are carrying yourself in the right way. I have seen some girls who were just comfortable in their own skin, and they just shined- they were the most attractive women in the room.

9.     Why do you think some women are afraid to be alone? When they get in a relationship they get so comfortable that when it’s over, they want that comfort that they became accustomed to. Then women on the rebound are so vulnerable, so the cycle continues.

10. Love should be sincere and compassionate, why do some guys play mind games? Control…manipulation.

11. How can a girl tell if a guy is cheating or being dishonest? Do you have enough evidence to confront him? No but seriously, if you suspect he is cheating and if he starts getting REAL DEFENSIVE, and you haven’t even said anything yet- like acting real crazy and defensive- then he’s cheating.

He’s getting all defensive because he feels like you are putting him on blast and calling him out, even though the only thing that you probably asked him was ‘where were you at?’

12. Do you have any regrets? Put it this way: if you are going to sleep with somebody then you should take the time to get to know them because if you don’t, then you could just land yourself in a world full of drama that could last you the next eighteen years.

13. What three tips about relationships can you give to the young women reading this? Let me think about this. Hold on a min…

Tip 1- If you are in a relationship and stuff starts going crazy and you just aren’t happy anymore, ask yourself why you’re still there. If you stay because you are needy, or because you are scared to loose what you have, then you're a fool- plain and simple. Have enough confidence in yourself to keep moving on. – Sorry to be so blunt, but I’m just being real. I see too many girls that are always complaining about their boyfriends, and are unhappy as h%#L- I don’t understand it.

Tip 2- Don’t lower your standards. Don’t think that just because you haven’t found what you are looking for yet, then you should just settle because you WON’T be happy. Get what you want.

Tip 3- If you decide to mess with a dude, know who you are messing with. For real. Just like some women try to trap dudes into a relationship, some guys do the same thing.

14. Anything else that you want to add that I didn’t ask you? Yeah, I know some of my answers were straight forward, but I just wanted to let ya’ll know how things can be sometimes. If I could end by saying anything it would be what I have noticed about some women:

They are impulsive. They don’t stop to think about things. They just go off of their emotions, and you can get yourself in a lot of trouble that way.