Monologue Monday: Me (Are You Willing To Make A Stand???)

Most of the posts that I have personally written for Monologue Mondays have been about my past relationships. Since I am currently single at the moment, I figured that I would have to tell my story using my previous experiences.

What I failed to recognize is that there is a story in my current state...being a 26 year old virgin who knows how to have fun and enjoy life, while still maintaining my morals and values.

This brings me to what I felt led to share with you today. As I have mentioned before, most of my adult life I have worked with young girls mentoring them about self-esteem, virginity, abstinence, respect, and many other subjects surrounding the female persona. (Even now I am volunteering with young ladies who have endured severe sexual or domestic abuse, so it’s a mission that I have decided to embrace head on).

Throughout it all, I have tried to create an open atmosphere with my girls. Nothing is off limits! I try to let them know that they can ask me anything and that I will answer it to the best of my ability.

I will never forget having a group discussion with a bunch of young ladies (between the ages of about 12-19) about relationships, self-worth, and sex, when one of the teens raised her hand and sincerely asked me: “Since you are a virgin, how can you really help me? Do you really know what I’m experiencing, and what advice can you actually give me...like have you actually been there???”

Up until this point I felt as though I was being extremely transparent with them about my relationships and past experiences. What I realized though is that I had created this perception that my lifestyle was somehow unachievable.

This could not be further from the truth... I apologized to her if I made it seem as though I was living an impossible lifestyle for ‘today’s woman’. I got off my high horse of preaching to them, and instead I walked with them.

Since then, I have let them and any other young person that I mentor know that I am no different than they are. I date, I have been in some uncompromising situations, I have had low self-esteem before, I have felt insignificant...basically just letting them know that I have gone through some of the same things that they have experienced.

The only possible difference between some of them and me is that I made the decision at a young age that I didn’t want to have sex before marriage, that I didn’t want to become a statistic, and that at some point I wanted to share my experiences with others.

This brings me to my question- would you be willing to share your story with another young girl even if it meant that you would have to do so publicly???

I have been told several times that a lot of youth groups and teens are reading my site, and they want to know what’s really up. I am doing my part and what God has laid on my heart, but my story only goes so far.

Would you be willing to share your story, your monologue, about the effects of sex before marriage on your identity, your self-worth, your relationships, your life?

Or maybe you have chosen to wait and you want to share how that decision has been for you...

Either way, someone out there is waiting to be ministered to. Your story could be the one story that could help another young person decide what’s right for them.
Someone is going to get to them (whether that’s the media, friends, or peer pressure). Maybe that someone could be you...

If you would like to share your story (whether it be anonymous or using your name- whatever you feel comfortable with), then please email me at virginmonologuez@gmail.com.

Someone is waiting for your voice to be heard...are you willing to speak?


  1. Hi LaToya, Recently reread a comment you left on my blog encouraging me. I wanted to encourage you today. I am so happy to know a young woman committed to the Lord mentoring young girls. You are this mother's dream.
    Thank you.

  2. Laura that's so sweet! Thanks so much. I actually was searching through blogs, and the title of your blog caught my attention. I clicked on it and I really enjoyed your writing style and content. Thanks for taking the time to send me some encouragement :)


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