I’m not trying to force my ideas on you though; ultimately I think that this is a decision that you have to make for yourself (especially if you are going to stick with it). I just think that it would be helpful if someone else shared their reasons for waiting, and then maybe you can create your own list to remind you why you should too.
So here goes my
reasoning behind my decision:
1. I only want to give myself to one man, and to him only
for the rest of my life- My ex says that sounds boring- THAT’S WHY HE’S MY EX!!! Seriously, I
can think of nothing more precious than meeting my husband, him finding out
that I saved myself for him and only him, and giving myself to him only for the
rest of my life. Call me a romantic but…
2. I don’t want the drama, ties, and confusion- EMOTIONS… Once you
sleep with someone, you are giving him a piece of yourself not just physically,
but emotionally too. I have heard of countless situations were someone was just
doing the “no-strings attached” thing or “friends with benefits”, and all too
quickly emotions and feelings naturally get involved, and it potentially ruins
relationships.
3. I want to get to know someone first before I allow my
emotions and desires get in the way- Being intimate with people changes things. It
changes you...I would rather just learn a person and see if I really LIKE him-
his personality, habits, values, beliefs and so forth- before I allow him to
have my heart.
4. I want to set an example- Everybody is NOT
doing it. Despite all of the negativity that the media portrays, and society
reiterates, everybody is not just going around sleeping with each other. While
this may happen a lot, it doesn’t happen for everyone. There are some people
who are choosing to wait or to practice abstinence, and that decision is ok.
I want those who are making that stance to know they are not alone. For all the
tweens and teens out there who are trying to decide what the right move is for
them, I have been there, been mocked and ridiculed for my decisions, and now as
a 20 something female, I am proud to say
I still am happy that I said no.
5. I choose to- This seems simple enough, but I feel like if I
hadn’t had made the decision before I started dating and getting into
relationships, then I probably would have been up for whatever. This is a
serious decision, so it’s not just something that should be decided in the heat
of things. I thought about my values and what kind of relationship I ultimately
wanted, and I am living my life accordingly. I’m waiting because I thought
about it, I made a decision, and I am re-choosing to everyday. It’s as simple
and as complex as a choice.
6. I don’t want to be a statistic- I have already
shared the story of my father dying of a heart attack when I was younger; so I
was raised by a single mother. I don’t want to succumb to the tags that society
places on children who grew up in single parent homes. You can be anything you
want to be in life- always believe that.
7. STDs and AIDs are real- True story: I was
once talking to a girl, and she had just found out that her boyfriend gave her
a STD. Know what she says: “I’m just glad it’s the kind that will clear up with
a pill…I wish he wouldn’t do this too me’. What?!? Do you know how precious you
and your body are? Why risk it? And if a guy is continuing to give you any type
of disease, he’s not the one- FOR REAL.
8. My body is precious and I don’t want to give it to just
ANYBODY- It’s just
not going to happen. I have witnessed too many drive-by relationships that
leave either one or both parties feeling miserable and empty, and I just don’t want
that. I realize how special I am and how important my body is, and I’m not
about to share that with just anybody….(and he’s an “anybody” if we aren’t
married).
9. I haven’t met the right person yet- I value myself
(not in a conceited way, but in a I know my worth humble kind of way). I don’t
want to prematurely give my mind, body and soul to someone else just because I
was impatient. I trust God and His timing, and when the time is right, I think
things will fall into place. I’m not going to try to push/rush thing. At the
moment I’m just enjoying living life, learning about myself, and exploring the
world. Life is good.
10. I’m a Christian, and I think that it’s the will of God- This is probably
the most important reason why I am choosing to wait. I can’t pretend that on my
own I would be so moral and good. The truth is that my faith and my religion
are the foundation for my morals and principals. I am NOT good on my own. I
fail, I sin, and I make mistakes…but I always try to search the Bible and find
out what God says about this life that He has created. In doing so, I learned
as a young child (with the help of my mom J), that saving oneself until marriage can be a beautiful
experience…and I always wanted to experience that. I genuinely believe that
it’s God’s will for sex to be shared between a husband and wife. I just believe
that’s the way it was meant to be….
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