You were born an
original
Don’t die a
copy
-John Mason
2/29/12
2/28/12
Date Night- What’s In Your Closet???
Here’s a random fact about me: I interned in London for one of the top fashion designers in the world…yep- I ♥ fashion (ironically I’m not really into labels or brands though- I wear it all)!
That said, to me fashion is about expressing one’s self, so what I think is cute you might think isn’t really your style. So do what works for you- but have fun!
Sorry…I’m getting off track... I said all of that to say this: Today I decided to post some really cute date outfits that I would wear for various types of dates. Hopefully you’ll be inspired.
In my opinion, the secret to any great outfit is to be intriguing and fun while adding a dash of mystery, without showing too much or looking like you’re trying too hard.
So here’s my take on being sexy without being too revealing; your beauty should come from within- your clothes are just an extension/expression of that.
Let you light shine- - but look good while you are at it 
Outfit 1 – Casual Night Out
Bottoms: Black leggings (www.bangonthetrends.co.uk)
Shoes: Peep toe lace black shoes (www.romwe.com)
Top: Bird by Juicy Couture (www.stylecompare.co.uk)
Necklace: Leopard eyeglasses (www.forever21.com)
Purse: Rose envelope bag (www.romwe.com)
Earrings: Rose studs (www.forever21.com)
Outfit 2 - Meet the Parents
Dress: Tutti Frutti Dress (www.missselfridges.com)
Shoes: Lace up wedges (www.stylecompare.co.uk)
Necklace: Gold figure w/ turquoise (www.forever21.com)
Outfit 3 – Reservations Only Date
Blouse: Retro printed silk blouse (www.donnaida.com)
Pants: Cream silk-satin trousers (www.stylecompare.co.uk)
Shoes: Metallic heel platforms (www.stylecompare.co.uk)
Earrings: Gold fireball spikes (www.missselfridges.com)
Purse: Leopard coin purse (www.newlook.com)
*What do you think? What do you usually wear for dates (whether it’s a casual night out, meeting the parents, or a fancy dinner date)?
2/27/12
Monologue Monday: Me
Monologue
Monday
Statistics
show that girls who are raised in single parent homes, who have no real father
figure in their lives, are more at risk of being in abusive relationships,
having low self-esteem, and becoming teen parents.
It is said that these same girls allow
themselves to be put down or degraded by guys, because they don’t know how a
man should treat a woman- they’ve never experienced it in their own homes, so
they don’t know what’s normal or acceptable.
I am the product of
a single parent home… but I refuse to become a statistic. My father died of
a heart attack when I was ten years old, and even at that age I became determined that I
didn’t want to be just another number to the growing data on the damaging
effects that being raised without a father can potentially have on a girl….it’s
by the grace of God that I’m still a virgin.
I was
repeatedly made aware that in many situations girls try to find the love and
acceptance that they should be getting from within the home, and locate it from
outside sources. I realized that I was more vulnerable and at risk than most
girls and that the odds were against me-
if the data was right then I was
supposed to be either an at risk teen, a pregnant student, in at least one
abusive relationship, or at least suffering from low self-esteem and
self-worth.
I shouldn’t have become a mentor to young
girls, have never slept with anyone, dated really great guys that respected my
decision to wait, or know my self-worth. It doesn’t make since…but that’s
because it’s by
the grace of God that I have become who I am.
I’ve always
been a bit stubborn (or maybe different is the word), but I just never wanted
to fit in; I never wanted to be a part of the ‘in’ crowd…what’s odd is that
just by being myself I ended up that way anyway. I wanted to stand out and be
different- I didn’t want to become a statistic.
If you grew
up in a single parent home like me and you have read the statistical data about
how the odds are against us, don’t believe all the hype. Yeah, we might
be more at risk of having a teenage pregnancy or being in a volatile
relationship, but that doesn’t have to
be our future. Life is about choices and you can choose for that not
to become your destiny -the only person that controls your fate is you.
You don’t
have to be a statistic. God is my Heavenly father, and I have never felt empty
or a void. You
can be anything you want, and you don’t have to fit into the
statistical mold- you can overcome whatever situation you are in… against all
odds.
I did and I
realize that it’s by the grace of God that I have become who I am.2/26/12
I Want to Hear From You!!!
Guess what...I have gotten a few more guys to volunteer to interview with me
and to answer all of those questions that you have been dying to know!!! (Ok...well dying is a bit dramatic but you get my
driftJ).
So if you
have any questions that you want answered from the males’ perspective- anything at all (nothing is off
limits), then put a comment below or send me a private message at virginmonologuez@gmail.com.
It can be anonymous or you can leave your name- doesn’t matter- I just want to
hear from you.
Hope to
hear from you soon!
2/25/12
Moment of Truth:
Sometimes I imagine
my daddy (who died when I was tips), looking down on me from Heaven and it always
stops me dead in my tracks from doing anything that he might disapprove of or
that I may regret. If I wouldn’t do it in front of my family, then most of the
times I know that I probably shouldn’t be doing it at all.
2/20/12
Monologue Monday: Greater Than The Game
Today is
going to be a good dayJ!
Today is
one of my most favorite parts about this blog- when we come together to share
our stories with the hopes of encouraging one another. So today’s monologue is
by the creator of Greater Than The Game: Chante Truscott; you
can find her website here.
Many of you are
familiar with An Athlete’s wife and her
amazing story, and so I asked
her if she would mind introducing her friend and today’s incredible feature to
you. Here is what she had to say about Mrs. Truscott:
“Chante Truscott is such a giving, kind, and
powerful woman of God. She has a passion
and desire to help single women understand what it means to connect with their
spiritual husband before God blesses them with an earthly husband. Her experiences in life have given her a
heart of gold that God is using to connect with women all over the world. She recently started a blog about her journey
with Him, and I could not be more proud of what God is doing in and through
her. She would give anything for another person and her enthusiasm to share her story is a just one way in which she shows
her love for the women that God connects her with. I pray that something that she says today
will touch your hearts as she has touched mine.
I am so blessed to have her as a sister in Christ”.
~An Athlete's Wife
Monologue
Monday: GreaterThan The Game (Chante Truscott)
The
household that I grew up in was not conducive to openly talking about sex with
our parents. My mother got pregnant when she was 17, by her own choice, and
because of her own decisions she instilled a “no sex rule”. The only talk
that we had was “don’t do it!”
As an adolescent, I became extremely curious
about the act of sex. Our household was not one of a deep relationship with
Christ at the time, so I was not given the eternal impact of having sex before
marriage. The closed line of communication between my parents and myself did
not satisfy the questions that I had. I
didn’t want to have sex but I was curious what it was about.
My first
boyfriend took my curiosity as a sign of interest in engaging in sex and
pounced on the opportunity to “educate” me. I did not enjoy the act of sex
during the entire 5 year, tumultuous relationship. My soul tie to this person
took me through a myriad of experiences that I was too young to comprehend. I could not
understand why I was unable to loosen the grip his soul had to mine.
I was not the only person he was engaged in a physical relationship with and I
was aware of it, but felt helpless to do anything about it.
Even after
I gained the strength to fully remove him from my life, the emotional damage this relationship had
caused was evidenced in my further interactions with men. My college
life was shrouded in sexual sin and lust for things and people that God never
intended for me to have. God spoke to me during this time and revealed why sex
is only intended for marriage. I had
become a different person with mannerisms and tendencies that I did not recognize.
When you have sex with someone, your souls are
bound together. You take on some of
their characteristics, thoughts, and feelings. The more people
you have sex with, the more your mind, body, and soul begin to look like ALL
of them. God revealed to me a very ugly, cruel, stone-hearted
individual who was staring back at me in the mirror.
At 21 years
old, I made the conscious decision to allow God to cleanse me and purify me
from my sexual sin that had haunted me for 7 years. I can truly look back over my life and see
that God’s grace prepared me for my soul mate. My hurtful past was
preparing me for my husband.
I don’t experience regret or shame today
because that would be believing the lies of the enemy, but I can imagine how
much sweeter my wedding night would have been had I been pure for my husband.
As a couple, we are continuing to allow God to remove any remnants of the sin
we both engaged in before we became one.
I would like to encourage each of you to wait
until God joins you with your soul mate. Waiting for him/her allows your
soul to be free and pure so their qualities can join with yours. It is
important that our soul joins with the one person God designed for us. You can
avoid “the multiple-personality syndrome”. Those are the things to leave behind
for your pure connection.
2/17/12
The Male's Perspective: My Interview with K.C.
So, it’s
that time again- time for a quick look into the male’s perspective. Each one of
my interviews so far has been extremely fun and insightful. And while I think
that we can learn from what each guy has told me, I also think that it’s
important to remember that every guy is different. These interviews are just
meant to shed light on how SOME men
think.
That said,
today you will meet K.C. (In general I want to use the guy’s name so that you
feel like you know him- plus for me knowing their names just makes it that much
more personal- but out of respect for K.C.’s profession - and the same goes for
J.D. - they both requested that I not use their names; Leimoh said it was ok).
Now, just
for a quick intro, K.C. was my high school sweetheart. I dated him longer than
any other guy, and even after we stopped dating it took me a really long time
to get back into the dating world (5 years to be exact but ya’ll don’t really
need to know that lol J).
K.C. is a spontaneous,
thoughtful, and really refined person. He has a passion for living and
experiencing new things, and really enjoys the finer things in life. While we had our share of problems and sad
moments, what I will never be able to take away from him is that he is
compassionate and bighearted.
When he really cares about a person he spares
no expense (and I’m not just talking monetarily because I’m not really into
that), but he spares no expense to make sure that the person is well taken care
of…guess that’s why he was able to capture my heart for as long as he did- he
was kind and he really put me first. Enough bragging on him though, I’ll let
you form your own opinion. Here is K.C.
The Male’s
Perspective: My Interview with K.C.
So you and I were high school sweethearts right? Yeah, we were. How long did we
date? We dated for 2 years and 8 months. So
my questions for you will be geared towards the younger crowd. For all of my
teenage girls- do you think that you can give them an accurate depiction of a
guy’s perspective during that time? Yeah, I can definitely do that. Before we begin
though, I want to ask you the same question that I have asked the other guys-
why did you agree to put it all out there for the public and let me interview
you? Because I agree with it. I think that what you are doing is
really good and has the potential to help a lot of people. Thank you; I really do hope so. So are you
ready to begin?
*Note-
from this point forward in the interview everything that I said is in blue…any
other color is his words, just added for emphasis*
1. What do you think is on a guy’s mind during his teenage
years? He wants to explore and find out what’s out
there. We are told all these things as we grow up, and at a certain point you
just want to see for yourself.
2. When a guy tells a girl that if she won’t have sex with
him that he will leave her, is he just testing her? It depends on how much
he likes her. If he doesn’t really like her that much, then nine times out of
ten he’s probably just testing her. When
a guy really likes a girl, then he won’t want to do anything to jeopardize
that. If he doesn’t really care about her though, then he’s probably just testing
her to see if she’ll sleep with him, and if she won’t he will probably
eventually stop talking to her- but that
just proves that he never really liked her to begin with.
On the other hand though, I believe that there are some guys who
really think that being physical in a relationship is important. For them, they
might just be trying to get what they feel they need. In those situations, if
it doesn’t line up with your principals and beliefs, then you probably shouldn’t
be talking to the guy.
3. What did you think when I said that I didn’t want to
have sex until marriage? Because we were so young, I thought you would change your mind. I
honestly thought you were just saying it out of respect for living with your
mom and being under her roof. I thought that once you got to college that would
change.
4. You were a virgin when we started dating right? Yeah, I was a
virgin. Why
did you tell me that you weren’t and do you think that lying to a girl is a
common thing? I lied because
I was embarrassed. I think that you asked me first, and I didn’t know if
you were or not and so in case that you weren’t, I didn’t want to seem like an amateur, so I
lied and said that I wasn’t. When I asked you and you said that you
were though, I was like ‘dang I shouldn’t have lied’. I felt dumb. I was too embarrassed after that to tell
you though, so I just went along with it.
5. In terms of women and relationships, do you have any
regrets? Nope,
because I have learned from everything that I have been through. I used my
experiences as learning tools. Like with you for example: even at that age, you
showed me what a woman should be like. So I learned a lot.
As far as with sex, if you keep looking back then you will never move
forward. I do want to say though that for a guy the potential for regret is no
where near as great as it is for women. In general, women are emotional beings-
sex is tied to their emotions and feelings. On top of that, they can get
pregnant and just have to deal with a lot other baggage. It’s just not the same for a guy. Double
standards are real.
6. What do you think about sex before marriage? Honestly, I think
it’s a reality because of the world that we live in. It’s all about
expectations…sex is all that you see being displayed everywhere. It’s hard to
find someone now who doesn’t expect to have sex before marriage, and to be with
someone you have to be in agreement with them.
7. How does a girl know if a guy is right for her? Find a guy that shares the same values as
you. For example, if God is important to you, then find a good Christian
man. If that’s not important, then don’t date someone who values that because it’s going to be constant conflict.
Also, find someone that treats you the way you deserve to be treated.
I’m just going to keep it real and say that not every woman deserves to be
treated in the same way. If you act like you don’t have class, then don’t
expect to be taken to exclusive settings. If a guy really cares about you though, then he’ll do
everything that he can to keep you happy.
8. What do you think about girls who dress proactive to get
your attention? How I can’t take them home to meet the parents. I automatically
classify them into one category: EASY.
9. Is there a certain type of girl that you wouldn’t date
or bring home to your parents? One that I know that they wouldn’t agree with.
My parents have been married for a really long time, and throughout their
marriage they have always been into each other. That’s what we were shown as
kids, and that’s what they would look for in the relationships that we show
them. If a girl isn’t all about me- like really caring and just genuinely into
me- then I know that I can’t bring her home.
Also,
if they are loud, disrespectful, and just generally don’t know how to act in
public, then I’m not going to introduce them to my parents.
10. What type of qualities do you look for in a girlfriend? Honesty. Also,
someone that compliments me and makes me smile. Who doesn’t hold back or play
games- she doesn't mind expressing how she feels to me. I don’t like it when a
girl really likes you but tries to hold back because she doesn’t want you to
know how much she cares, or because she thinks it’s a game.
You know that... You walked right up to me and just started talking to
me and let me know that you were in to me. I really liked that. It’s good for
guys to make the first move, but I don’t think that there is anything wrong
with a girl making the first move either though.
11. Are you single? No, I’m not. What would a romantic date be like with
you? I would show up with flowers and then wait for about an hour
while she finished getting ready lol. Then I would take her to a reservation
only restaurant, and ask them to customize the setting to her likes and desires-
(I would find all of that out before hand though, so that I can make sure that
she is really catered to). Then after a beautiful dinner, I would take her for
a stroll and just spend some quality time listening to her and getting to know
her that much more.
12. Since we dated so young and are still friends now, what is
your opinion about “puppy” love? ‘Puppy’ love is before you know what real love
is. You are
too young to understand love, but you just know that they make you feel a certain
way. I’m not saying that ‘puppy love’ isn’t real, because we
experienced it, but I just don’t think
that at that age someone can understand what love takes. Love is life
altering, and when you are young, you might not be ready for that.
13. Earlier this week was Valentine’s Day, what advice would
you give to the teenage girls reading this about love and relationships? Valentine’s Day
serves two purposes. For people that have been in relationships for a while, it’s
a reminder to do something out of the ordinary. On the other hand, for those
that are just beginning a relationship or for the younger crowd, then it’s a
way for someone to show that they like you and to put it out there in the open.
Valentine’s Day
should NOT be about sex. It should be about letting you know that you are special. If a guy
shows up with some generic candy and flowers and didn’t really put much thought
into, then he probably gave the same thing to more than one person.
14. Why do you think some girls put up with so much stuff
from guys and keep taking them back even after they have been wronged
repeatedly? Many reasons... It could be because they are from a broken home- they feel a
void because they grew up with no dad to show them what a real man is,
or they didn’t see that example between their own parents, so they just go off
of their own experiences. Then some guys grow up in broken homes, so they don’t
know how to treat a woman because they haven’t witnessed it.
Girls allow it because they don’t know any
better. They don’t know their worth... You can’t give your heart to someone who
isn’t going to cherish it.
15. Before we finish, is there any more advice that you can
give to the teenage girls reading this? Yeah, don’t do what you see on TV. We think that
stars are to be idolized for some reason, but they have just as many problems
as we do; they are just people. Being provocative isn’t the way to be. Take
your time and make a guy wait. If he really likes you, then he’ll stand by
you and respect you. Don’t go with what pop culture says- most of these people
are NOT happy.
On top of that, when it’s time for the real guy to come along, if you’ve
been just living any kind of way then he isn’t going to want you. He could be
perfect for you, and really have wanted to be with you, but your mistakes might be so big that he might
not want to take all that extra baggage on.
Lastly, don’t compare yourself to a man. If you want to be treated like a lady, then act like one.
Double standards might not be fair, but they are real. Guys can get away with
things that you can’t if you want to be considered a lady. Being fast gets you
old quick.
2/16/12
Virgin Monologuez’s Facebook Page is Here!!!
After about 2 weeks of creating and developing
this blog, I just created a facebook page so that I could better interact with
you! Really exciting stuff J. So when you have some time, please stop by and
like our page (if you like): facebook.com/virginmonologuez.
Have a good day!
Oh, I forgot to tell you- we have another
interview from the male’s perspective coming up tomorrow, and you won’t want to miss it! Talk to you
soon…
2/13/12
Monologue Monday: Me
Happy
Monday Everyone,
So for
today’s monologue you have me- the author/creator of this site. While I want to
feature other women for Monologue Mondays most of the time and allow them to
share their struggles, successes, and advice as it relates to relationships and
their past experiences, there are some times when you will hear from me.
I haven’t
been in a lot of relationships and I’m still a virgin, so I think that it’s important
to get advice from other women who have been there and experienced what I could
never advise you on. That said though, I do have a story- I do have experiences and
revelations that I can share with you that might be just as insightful and
helpful.
So from
time to time, please join me as I share
myself and my stories with you from a virgin’s perspective. Here is a piece
of me- my monologue for today:
Monologue
Monday: Me
It’s a beautiful
thing valuing myself and knowing my self worth. While I have had
moments of insecurity, overall they are few and far between because I know who
I am and what I have to offer. (And on the days that I forget, I have an
amazing mom, brothers, godmother, grandmother, family, and friends who remind
me. Yeah, you probably noticed that I didn’t say father, but that’s only
because my father died when I was eleven, but that’s going to be a story for a
different monologue in getting to know me).
All of that
said, this
rode has not been easy. I wish I could tell you that it’s easy to
say no, or that it’s easy not to give in to peer pressure, or that it’s easy
being alone sometimes because of some of the choices that I have made, but all of that would be a lie.
Life
is about choices, and a lot of times those choices can be really difficult to
make. To me it
almost seems easier to say yes and just do it, then it does to say no and stand
for what you believe in- but who am I to say how difficult a choice was or
wasn’t for you? I’m just saying for me it would have been easier to say yes
than it has been to say no.
Easier
because I probably wouldn’t be judged as being lame because I don’t participate
in the party; easier because people probably wouldn’t preconceive me as being judgmental
just because I won’t participate in certain activities with them (but neither
do I condemn them- people have to make decisions for themselves, and I won’t
ever play God); easier
because I probably wouldn’t be single or feel insignificant sometimes because I
refuse to give up one of my most precious gifts-myself- to a guy.
In fact, I
have been in situations where some guys have even said to me, “you are so
beautiful and so cool- you would make the perfect wife- but you aren’t good
girlfriend material. A guy wants to have fun, have sex, and enjoy life, and after
that’s over then they want to settle down. I can’t sleep with you, so I don’t
want to date you, but when I’m ready to settle down, you’ll be my first choice”.
That’s a blow to my
confidence no matter how much self-esteem I have.
I have
traveled the world, met some of the most amazing people, and had some of the
sweetest jobs! I have laughed until I cried; praised God that I have the
friends and family that I have, and smiled until my cheeks hurt- my life has
been good.
My one
desire though…my
one dream… has been to meet the man that will cherish me and I him,
and to love and adore him (and only him), until the day that I die.
It’s been hard
ladies. I’m
certain that if I didn’t have the values and beliefs that I did, then my life
would be different. I’m certain that I wouldn’t be in a hotel room in another
country working, while thinking about how I can encourage you. I would probably
be in some easy relationship, giving of myself because it was easier, but I
can’t do that.
You might
not know me that well now, but I have never been one to settle. Sex isn’t
everything, but my body is pretty
spectacular- sorry if that sounds arrogant- and my mind is priceless. I can’t allow myself
to entertain someone and have them obtain my heart and my body when they don’t deserve me.
The man who does
deserve me will be the one that sees into my soul, and gets me. He will realize
that I’m humble and compassionate, but confident and sassy. He will love that I
laugh until my stomach hurts, and that I take life on full force. He will admire
that I’ve waited for him, and thank God on the night of our wedding.
So there you
have it women. The choice to wait isn’t easy. You will be ridiculed, feel
lonely, maybe joked on or laughed at, but it will be worth it. I can’t tell you
how I know that for sure now, but I just know.
Think about
what you want in life, and make it happen. There will be consequences for any
decision, but learning is half the battle.
Cherish
yourselves, and regardless of the choice that you make, know that you have
someone in your corner rooting for you. You will make it in life, and the right
person will come along for you. I can’t tell you how I know for sure, but I
just know.
Have a good
day, and Happy Valentine’s Day. Regardless if you have someone or alone
tomorrow night, hold
your head up because you are beautiful.
-Virgin
Monologuez
2/12/12
Moment of Truth:
I wish that we would stop tearing
each other down, and start lifting and building each other up.
What does one gain by breaking
someone else’s spirit…haven’t you been there? It doesn’t feel good.
2/10/12
The Male's Perspective: My Interview with Leimoh
Hi everyone, how was your week? I hope it was
good!
So today you will meet Leimoh. He and I dated
towards the end of my freshman year of high school, and we have remained good
friends every since.
He is one of the kindest, rawest, most sincere
people that I have ever met. Seriously, I don’t think that I will ever meet
another human being who is more loyal than him- ever.
I respect him more than words can express. He has
been through so much in his life, and he has still come out on top. As you read
the interview, I think you’ll find his responses perceptive, engaging, and
perhaps even a bit painful to hear at times.
Don’t just take my word for it though; let’s see
what he had to say about women and relationships:
1. The questions that I’m about to ask you are personal. Why
did you agree to let me interview you? Because I’ve known you for over 10 years. I know
your character. If anybody else would’ve asked me to do it than I probably
would’ve said no, but I know what your intentions are. You are just trying to keep
it real for young women out there.
2. What do you think about what this site is conveying to
young teens and women? As far as its purpose and what I’ve seen of it so far, it’s a good
idea. I think it’s good to let women know that they have choices, because it seems like somewhere along the way some
of them forgot that.
3. What does your ideal girl look like? Wow…umm I’ve never
really thought about it before. That’s a good question. If I was to really
think about it, I guess it just boils down to my preferences: I love a strong
black woman- they are just sexy.
4. What do you think about abstinence or virgins? Do you
think relationships are better when you wait? I don’t know…I haven’t come across too
many of them. You don’t find too many girls like that. In fact, you’re the only
one that I know personally.
5. You are in a relationship right now right? Yeah, I am in a
relationship. What
qualities about your girlfriend attracted you to her? Above anything
else, she was one of the first people that I came across in a long period of
time who respected herself. She had
desires and maybe even wanted to mess with me, but she stuck to her standards.
She had restraint, and I was attracted to that.
6. One of your brothers just got married and another one is
getting married very soon, our congratulations to them both. Yeah, thank you. So how do you
know when you have found the ONE? What qualities does a guy look for in a wife?
The most important thing to me is respect. There are a lot of women that don’t
know how to respect a man. With that goes trust and loyalty; they all go hand
in hand. How loyal do you think a girl
will be if she sleeps with you the first night? If she did it with you then
she’ll do it again- meaning another man can come along and top you, and it’s
over…no loyalty.
7. Speaking of sleeping with someone the very first time
that you meet him, what’s your take on one night stands? 90% of the time it
will never be more than what it is. That’s why it’s called a one night stand.
8. With so many ladies wearing clothes that are barely
there and getting lots of attention from guys, what can a classy girl do to be
noticed? For me
it’s not so much about what they are wearing as it is how they present
themselves. Confidence is sexy, so it doesn’t
matter what you got on if you are carrying yourself in the right way.
I have seen some girls who were just comfortable in their own skin, and they
just shined- they were the most attractive women in the room.
9. Why do you think some women are afraid to be alone? When they get in a
relationship they get so comfortable that when it’s over, they want that
comfort that they became accustomed to. Then women on the rebound are so
vulnerable, so the cycle continues.
10. Love should be sincere and compassionate, why do some
guys play mind games? Control…manipulation.
11. How can a girl tell if a guy is cheating or being
dishonest? Do you
have enough evidence to confront him? No but seriously, if you suspect he is cheating and if he starts getting REAL DEFENSIVE,
and you haven’t even said anything yet- like acting real crazy and
defensive- then
he’s cheating.
He’s getting all
defensive because he feels like you are putting him on blast and calling him
out, even though the only thing that you probably asked him was ‘where were you
at?’
12. Do you have any regrets? Put it this way: if
you are going to sleep with somebody then you should take the time to get to
know them because if you don’t, then you could just land yourself in a world
full of drama that could last you the next eighteen years.
13. What three tips about relationships can you give to the
young women reading this? Let me think about this. Hold on a min…
Tip 1- If you are in a
relationship and stuff starts going crazy and you just aren’t happy anymore,
ask yourself why you’re still there. If you stay because you are needy, or
because you are scared to loose what you have, then you're a fool- plain and
simple. Have enough confidence in
yourself to keep moving on. – Sorry to be so blunt, but I’m just being
real. I see too many girls that are always complaining about their boyfriends, and are unhappy as h%#L- I
don’t understand it.
Tip 2- Don’t lower
your standards. Don’t think that just because you haven’t found what
you are looking for yet, then you should just settle because you WON’T be
happy. Get what you want.
Tip 3- If you decide to
mess with a dude, know who you are
messing with. For real. Just like some women try to trap dudes into a
relationship, some guys do the same thing.
14. Anything else that you want to add that I didn’t ask
you? Yeah, I
know some of my answers were straight forward, but I just wanted to let ya’ll
know how things can be sometimes. If I could end by saying anything it would be
what I have noticed about some women:
They are impulsive.
They don’t stop to think about things. They just go off of their emotions, and
you can get yourself in a lot of trouble that way.
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