Monologue Monday: Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Lady

Hi all J,

How’s your Monday going so far?

Well today is another Monologue Monday post but we changed it up just a bit. For the next 2-3 weeks we are going to be doing a special on dating tips and advice surrounding other women’s experiences. (Don’t worry though, the posts of women telling their personal stories in their own words will be back after this!).

The reason why we are changing it just slightly (it’s still going to be real women sharing their own experiences, just by way of tips and advice as opposed to their own stories), is because so many women ask:

“Well if I want to try to do this right then how SHOULD I behave in a relationship? I’m so tired of doing things the wrong way, but I have no idea WHERE to even start with a new way of doing it. HELP!!!”

Well I’m no relationship expert, but I have rounded up some really amazing women who would like to share what has worked for them. So pray and ask God for guidance, read over this list (and the next two to come), and really think about what you want out of a relationship and what will be best for you. It’s all going to work out though J!

1^st up in this segment is Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Lady, written by the lovely Chante Truscott. She previously shared her personal story here, and you can find her website here.

Check out her advice below and let me know what you think? Have you already tried any of these tips and they worked for you???

P.S. The next two Mondays will be posts about ‘What I Wish My Mother Would Have Told Me: The Dating Chronicles’ and ‘Dressing to Impress: Keeping it Classy and Fun’.- After that, we will be back at it with real women sharing their personal stories, so stick around J!

Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Lady

Dating is no easy feat in today’s society! As women after the heart of God, we must learn to be submissive to the voice of God at all times; which ultimately prepares us to submit to our earthly husbands.

The world is saturated with opinions and advice about how to carry ourselves when we are on the dating scene. The truth of the matter is that dating is just preparation for the bigger stage of marriage. Dating is no different from any other undertaking: you must prepare or you will not be successful.

The Word of God teaches us in Proverbs 29:18 “Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he”. You must have a vision of who you want to be as a wife, so that you can establish the rules that you want to abide by while dating.

The few that I am noting below should shed some light on the direction you might want to consider heading in:

1.      Respect Yourself: You must set the tone for the way you want to be treated! You are fearfully and wonderfully made and your respect for yourself will demonstrate that to your date.

2.      Dress Like a Lady: Your beauty has to flow from the inside out; accentuate your assets, don’t expose them!!!

3.      Speak Like a Lady: Being relatable to someone of the opposite sex does not mean acting like “just one of the guys”; speak like a woman, that’s what he is interested in.

4.      Invest in the Conversation: Communication is almost entirely composed of active listening. It’s important to understand his interests and what you have in common.

5.      Stand by Your Convictions: Don’t be alarmed if you and your date disagree on minor issues, but it’s imperative that you agree on the major issues. (I.E. he is a man that holds the same spiritual beliefs that you do, etc.)

6.      Self-Assessment: Are you what he is looking for? Lots of times we get ahead of ourselves when our dates meet our criteria, but we overlook the fact that we may not be what he desires in his life.

7.      Broaden Your Horizons: Be sure that you’re open to trying new things that you’ve never done before; you never know how things may enrich your life. Your date may want to go camping and you don’t like the outdoors, don’t turn down date #2 for superficial reasons.

8.      Be a Lady: Don’t physically attach yourself to someone that God hasn’t declared as yours. You want to have a clear head when waiting and dating. Creating a physical bond with someone who is not yours complicates that process.

God has a mate for each of us and we want to ensure that we keep that in mind. Dating is the way to learn more about ourselves while drawing us closer to that mate. The dating process has its proper place in our lives and we must be sure to establish ground rules for ourselves if we want to be paired with our true soulmate.

Don’t get discouraged though! Dating should be a fun and enriching process as it leads you to the person who will enhance the rest of your life. After all, “til death do us part” is a long time.

By setting the standard for yourself while single, you will be able to follow that same standard once you are married.