11/12/13
I've Moved....
11/6/13
What I Was Doing In Asia…
The short answer is that I was volunteering.
I had two assignments: my primary assignment was to teach English at a local college, and my second assignment (which I chose personally and that was extremely close to my heart), was mentoring young girls at an orphanage, teaching them English, art, and some life skills.
All in all I am beyond glad that I had the chance to live in a developing country and to step out of my comfort zone because this experience (more so than any other country that I have ever been to or lived in) really pushed me in ways that I didn’t think possible.
Now that I’m back at home, I feel refreshed and ready to apply myself in new ways.
While I was away, in my spare time I was working on some really cool projects which brings me to this new phase that I’m currently in in my life: continuing to mentor young people, but also starting my own online boutique and writing my first book.
There is so much stuff that I could say about my trip, I have a gazillion pictures that I took and could share, and so many interesting stories that I could recount, but I don’t want to bore you more than I probably already have by talking about myself too much, so I’ll just wrap this post up by saying that I’m looking forward to this next phase of my life and I hope that you all will join me!
My next post is going to be a moving announcement, and from here on out I will no longer be blogging here as Virgin Monologuez, but you will now be able to find me at my new company website: www.dorothyalexa.com
Thank you to each and every one of you for all of the messages, emails, and love that you have showed me since I started this blog.
10/29/13
Let Me Introduce Myself To You- Meet Me :)
7/22/13
I’m Taking a Break….Back In America :)
7/8/13
Monologue Monday: What are your thoughts?
Moment of Truth:
6/24/13
Monologue Monday: 28 Random Facts about Me
A Quick Thank You Note
6/10/13
Monologue Monday: Letters to My Younger Self #4
How was your Monday?
Mine was pretty good, but at the moment I’m HUNGRY!!!
I’ll take care of that in a second, but first, I just wanted to sit down and write this quick post.
I actually received a request to talk about the difference between gold-digging and security….bet you can guess who it came from: yep, a guy sent it in.
Either way, I think it’ll be a fun topic to discuss because I definitely think there’s a difference between the two.
But before I get to that topic, I wanted to write a quick note to my younger self. (Hopefully I’ll get to the post on security vs. gold-digging soon, but I’m trying to stop giving out dates because lately I haven’t been able to stick to them because work has been so busy. So in an effort to try to be a woman of my word, I’ll just say, “as soon as I get some free time, I’ll stop back by to give my opinion on the matter and I would love for you to do the same”).
In the meantime, here’s what I would tell my younger self today….
(And if you have no idea what this is all about, click here).
Things That I Wish I Knew About Waiting, Dating and Confidence
Dear Younger Self:
Let me just get straight to the point on this one:
It’s better to be honest and clear about your limits UP FRONT, than to be unclear about the matter when you know that you have boundaries that you don’t desire to go past.
You know that you don’t want to have sex before marriage, so don’t be vague about it.
Don’t worry whether you are going scare the guy off, whether everybody else is going to have something to say about it, or whether it’s kind of uncomfortable to talk about when you don’t know how the other person is going to respond.
All of that is irrelevant. This is your body we’re talking about and your life. What everyone else thinks, particularly in this case, really doesn’t matter much.
Not telling the guy that you are interested in or telling him but being unclear about it all, is not only misleading, but it could potentially cause a lot of unnecessary confusion and tension when you could’ve just be upfront about it from the beginning.
Besides, if you divulging this information is going to cause someone to walk away or be apprehensive, you should know his intentions before things get serious.
If he walks away or tries to convince you to do “everything else but sex” trust me when I say he’s not the one for YOU.
Leading someone on, sugar-coating things, or not being completely clear, is wrong. Being straightforward and direct about your boundaries really is the only way to go. Not only will you be saving yourself a lot of heartache by being truthful, but you can weed out the random guys who care more about their desires being fulfilled than they do about getting to know you as a person.
I’m not saying tell everybody, that’s dangerous… but if you’ve been getting to know someone and he has piqued your interest, if you think there could be a future there, be open with him and talk about it.
Wait for the one who will wait with you and not make you feel bad about it or question your decisions…
And don’t ever forget that you are WORTH waiting for
6/9/13
Moment of Truth:
6/3/13
Monologue Monday: Taking Care of Business – Eco Beauty Tips From Krystal
One of the easiest (and not to mention cheapest) beauty habits that you can implement into your life is drinking a glass of warm/room temperature lemon water. Drinking a glass of lemon water helps to jump start your digestive system. Lemon juice helps to rid your body of unnecessary gunk--which makes digestion more fluid. It also flushes the liver and the kidneys while hydrating your entire body. It is also known to clear skin, and get this--freshen breath.
P.S. The reason why your lemon water should be room temperature to warm is because it takes less effort for the body to adjust to room temperature than it would a glass of ice water.
So far, I haven't used a Pangea product that I haven't loved. They make everything from body scrubs to lip balm. I love the fact that all of Pangea's product packaging is biodegradable. This means that their packaging will breakdown over time and will serve as fertilizer for plants (I already started to plant my old packaging in my yard). I use their Moroccan Argan w/ Willow & Rosemary Facial Cream along with their Australian Wild Plum & Willow Facial Cleaner. I chose these two because they're geared towards people with oily skin--which I had. I can honestly say that since I've been using this pair, the amount of oil that my skin produces has been reduced to a minimum. These two facial products smell AMAZING!! And the best part is, they're natural. No artificial colors, fragrances, or synthetic enhancers. You can buy via PangeaOrganics.com, or Amazon.com which is a better deal because they're products are priced lower and they offer free shipping incentives.
If you haven't used this natural gem, you are missing out. I've been using shea butter religiously for a couple of years now, ever since my friend from Ghana bought some to the States for me to try. Shea butter is good for both hair and body use. I use it for my body at times, but my hair is where I really put my shea butter to work. I have a very simple recipe for a hair moisturizer. I call it my Shea Hair Soufflé. The recipe is as follows:
*Shea Butter
*Extra Virgin Olive Oil
*Essential Oil of your choice (totally optional)
Take your ingredients and mix them in a blender or food processor until the mixture is fluffy and silky. That's all there is to it! I like to buy cute little containers or use recycled glass jars to store my soufflé.
Rose balm is another one of nature's little treasures. Rose oil is just as moisturizing as it is fragrant. I buy little canisters of rose balm and store them in my purse. I use it to moisturize my hands whenever I absentmindedly forget to pack lotion in my purse (tiger paws are so unbecoming on a lady). I also use it to smooth down my unruly eyebrows, to massage my hands, smooth down my baby hairs, and to sooth my tired eyes by putting the balm on the puffy area of my eyes. I use rose balm the most as a lip balm, especially after using my homemade lip scrub. It makes your lips feel like feathers. One of the best parts about rose balm is that it won't cost you any more than $10. You can buy it online, Whole Foods, Bath & Body Works, or just about any other natural beauty retailer.
I LOVE all things lavender! Maybe it has something to do with the fact that purple is my favorite color, or maybe it's just simply that I adore the scent, but I need the scent of lavender in my life. This one may seem a little strange, but it works for me so... Lavender is calming and soothing, and it has a certain lulling effect. The scent of lavender helps me sleep, so whenever I am out of my lavender sachets, I stash a fresh bar of Yardley's Lavender in my pillow case for aromatherapy purposes. There's something nostalgic and calming (for me, at least) about inhaling the light, airy scent of this minty, evergreen shrub. Pure heaven!!
Of the many things that olive oil is used for, makeup remover probably isn't the first one that comes to your mind. As I stated earlier, I don't wear too much makeup, but when I do, I stick with darker colors such as black and navy blue. My signature makeup look requires nothing more than some black or blue eyeliner and mascara. Even though these are the only two staples in my makeup arsenal, I have a heck of a time removing them from my face at night. So one night I decided to try olive oil as a remover, and surprisingly, it worked!! I was able to get rid of every little trace of dark liner and stubborn mascara with just one cotton swab. It's like a little miracle, and not to mention much less expensive than buying organic makeup wipes. Oh, and as an added bonus, the olive oil conditions lashes. Try it!!
Sounds difficult to make, but not so much. Next to pictures, I think that home fragrance is the one thing that sets your house apart and speaks for your personality. Home fragrance turns your house into a home. I get many compliments on the fragrances that I use whenever I have visitors (this has much to do with why I want my life to be a beautiful fragrance of worship to God. A beautiful fragrance is welcoming, it makes one want to stay a while and rest, but I digressed). Here's one of my recipes:
*Orange Peels
*Cinnamon
*Rosemary
*Thyme or Lemongrass Essential Oil (Optional)
Place your ingredients into a pot and add water. Place your pot onto the stove and allow it to lightly simmer. Don't let it boil or your potpourri will burn and it won't be pleasant.
5/27/13
Monologue Monday: Letters To My Younger Self #3
Things That I Wish I Knew About Waiting, Dating and Confidence
This letter is kind of embarrassing. Not in the funny way, but in the ‘I can’t believe I allowed that to happen’ kind of way.
My advice to my younger self this week would be: Don’t try to impress others.
This may seem like pretty standard knowledge, but when I was in high school and even college, I did some pretty dumb things all in the name of love while trying to impress certain people.
It’s not that I thought that being myself wasn’t enough, because even then I maintained a certain sense of awareness about who I was and what I wanted out of life, and I was focused on achieving those things…it’s just I went overboard some times.
So I definitely had my moments when I was like ‘why did I do that?’
I guess it would be even more embarrassing if I were still making the same mistakes now that I was then, but since I’m not, I guess I should be thanking my younger self for the knowledge that it has forced me to learn through certain things that I experienced back then.
Maybe I should give you some examples for those of you reading this wondering ‘like what?’ These are just a few of the ones that immediately come to mind, but trust me when I say this isn’t even the tip of the iceberg…
*Taking my ENTIRE two week paycheck to buy my then boyfriend a ridiculously expensive watch for his birthday….that was stolen on campus 2 weeks later. (Here’s the thing on this one- Buying gifts for a boyfriend or any of my friends is not crazy to me. I know some girls who are like ‘he’s supposed to be spending money on you...not the other way around’. I AM NOT ONE OF THOSE GIRLS. If I care about someone, family members and friends alike, I like to shower them with gifts from time to time. This doesn’t always mean materialistic though. Sometimes it’s my time, energy, or something else. (Like if they’ve been wanting to do something but I haven’t had the time- I’ll just surprise them one day and cancel everything that’s on my agenda and make the day strictly about them). That said, in this situation it wasn’t me buying him a gift that was dumb- it was the fact that I took all of my money to pay for it….not cool. This was when I was a freshman in college, so since then I have learned how to budget money and how to be responsible. Now I give myself a budget that is inline with my finances, and if something is over that I go back to the drawing board and think of a different idea. My advice to my younger self in this situation is don’t live a lie…or try to be something that you aren’t. Stick within your means and be yourself…that’s better than any amount of money or gift).
*Being ambiguous about my boundaries when I first got into a relationship with my ex. (I was going to go into detail about this one, but I think it deserves its own letter. Maybe I’ll write more about this next week…we’ll see).
*This one isn’t about dating, but it still goes along with the topic: Wearing crazy high heels to a premiere in London while walking across gravel. (Seriously…. I’m the kind of girl who tries to have a pair of flats in her bag at all times to avoid situations like this. It’s one thing to walk the underground in sky high heels, but walking across gravel and pebbles of rocks when there were flashing lights every where. Thank God I didn’t break my leg). Going forward, I wear what I’m comfortable in. I’m just as much into heels as the next girl, but I know my limits now. If I know that those platforms are going to cause me to end up in the emergency room, I’m going to opt out.
Honestly, I guess these weren’t all that embarrassing, especially considering the payoff of me having learned valuable lessons…So maybe in this letter I realized that my past is just as important as my present and future because it taught me lessons.
It’s one thing to make mistakes, but it’s another to keep repeating them.