There is so much stuff that I would tell my younger self….So MUCH!
Since there is so much that I could say, (and I sat down and just over the course of about ten minutes I was able to write down a list that was at least a couple of pages long, so I’m not exaggerating about the SO MUCH part), but because of this, I honestly had no idea where to start.
Should I start with something funny? Juicy? Sentimental? Embarrassing?
So I figured why not just start with the basics. It may not be all that exciting or noteworthy, but it’s the truth, and it would have saved me a lot of heartache and disappointments had I known it then as I understand it now.
So here goes my first letter to my younger self….
Things That I Wish I Knew About Waiting, Dating and Confidence
Dear Younger Self:
Over the next couple of years, you are going to go through a lot of changes.
People are going to come in and out of your life, guys are going to be confusing, and in the midst of it all, you are going to be trying to find yourself.
My advice to you, (since I’ve kind of lived it already now ), is to learn to love yourself first.
Because you are so young, and understandably naïve in a lot of ways, some people (some of which you hang out with and confide in), are going to try to push you in this direction or that, and they aren’t going to have your best interest at heart…some of them will, but many more aren’t.
Once you learn to love yourself, and to be comfortable with who you are- in this stage that you are in now- what everyone else thinks or what they have to say about you won’t matter as much (if at all), because you will be comfortable with who you are.
As far as the guys who are trying to show you attention and whisper all kinds of non-sense to you, don’t fall for it. (Seriously…I know you want to date, and have fun, and have a boyfriend just like everybody else, but you need to focus on you first).
Besides, as you continue to grow up you will realize that many of those same guys who seemed so interested in you then had different plans than what was your understanding.
Wait on all that stuff until you have a better understanding of who you are….What’s the point of rushing to grow up any way?!?!
Well, that’s about all that I would say to you for now. I know you probably were expecting something grand or life changing, but nope….
My advice to you would simply be to learn to love yourself and to be comfortable with who you are….that simple, but that complex.
****P.S. What about you? What would you say to your younger self?
I know it may seem kinda weird, but it’s actually therapeutic! You can’t change it, so why not write about it and get it all out.*****
I would tell my younger self (and my current self) to take more risk, don't be afraid to challenge yourself and do things that you don't know the outcome of (in terms of career and stepping outside the box)...not anything crazy lol
ReplyDeleteLove this section you added to your blog