Monologue Monday: Why Won’t He Treat You Right???

I am going to try to tread lightly on this subject because my intentions aren’t to offend anyone or to be insensitive to anything that anyone is going through. Rather, I thought that today’s post could be more of a self-empowerment type of read.

Essentially though, the answer to the question above is because you allow it. Maybe you don’t feel like you deserve to be treated good, or you don’t know how to go about requiring better treatment, or you have dealt with this sort of behavior for so long that it has become normal for you and thus you don’t challenge it, or a countless number of other reasons, but it is happening because you are allowing yourself to be subjected to such treatment. If you changed your standards and realized how special you are, you wouldn’t tolerate him treating you so badly because you would know your worth and that you deserve better.
You have to know how worth it you are first though. If you don’t think highly of yourself (and not in an arrogant or egotistical sort of way, but more so in a knowing your value and not settling for anything less than that kind of way), then you may allow your mind to be convinced that you are deserving of such treatment, and I don’t care who you are or what anyone has accused you of doing, no one deserves to be treated badly. Period.
Change your mindset and take back your power.
If he isn’t treating you right, walk away or distance yourself from the situation until you have figured out what is best for you. Again, no one deserves to be abused. In spite of what he may tell you, he isn’t behaving the way he is because he loves you or because it was a one time incident and he had a bad day.
No, he is treating you disrespectfully because he has no self-respect, he has no (or very little) value for women, and most importantly he needs help. He has some issues that he has to work on for himself before he can be the man that you want or desire him to be for you.
Even if you are a registered psychiatrist, you shouldn’t be working on your family or friends, so there is nothing that you can do for him but pray for him and give him distance to get himself better. If nothing else though, get out of the situation for you and your well being; you need to recover and become healthy again for you.
Ask yourself how did you get to this place and why did you allow it? What makes you think that it’s ok for a guy to disrespect you or to treat you badly?
If you have to question why he won’t treat you right, then the relationship is unstable and unhealthy. I know maybe you are apprehensive because the two of you have been together for so long, or you love him so much, or he doesn’t do it that often, but if he is treating you badly AT ALL, that does not equate love.
A man who loves you is going to celebrate you and cherish you. He is going to want to protect you and make sure that you are safe and secure; not lay a hand on you or mentally and emotionally abuse you. In short, he is going to love you and uplift you; not make you feel less than or insignificant.
Start seeing yourself as the AMAZING woman that you are, and as your mindset changes so will your standards.
Love yourself first; you are worth it.

-Virgin Monologuez

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast,
it is not proud.
It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking,
it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails
1 Corinthians 13: 4-8


  1. The Lord was ministering to me about that same verse. Thank you for again posting something that I needed to read.


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