Essentially
though, the answer to the question above is because you allow it. Maybe you don’t
feel like you deserve to be treated good, or you don’t know how to go about
requiring better treatment, or you have dealt with this sort of behavior for so
long that it has become normal for you and thus you don’t challenge it, or a countless
number of other reasons, but it is happening because you are allowing yourself to be
subjected to such treatment. If
you changed your standards and realized how special you are, you wouldn’t tolerate
him treating you so badly because you would know your worth and that you
deserve better.
You have to
know how worth it you are first though. If you don’t think highly of yourself
(and not in an arrogant or egotistical sort of way, but more so in a knowing your
value and not settling for anything less than that kind of way), then
you may allow your mind to be convinced that you are deserving of such treatment,
and I don’t care who you are or what anyone has accused you of doing, no one
deserves to be treated badly. Period.
Change
your mindset and take back your power.
If he isn’t
treating you right, walk away or distance yourself from the situation until you
have figured out what is best for you. Again, no one deserves to be abused. In
spite of what he may tell you, he isn’t behaving the way he is because he loves
you or because it was a one time incident and he had a bad day.
No, he is
treating you disrespectfully because he has no self-respect, he has no (or very
little) value for women, and most importantly he needs help. He has some issues that he has to work on
for himself before he can be the man that you want or desire him to be for you.
Even if you
are a registered psychiatrist, you shouldn’t be working on your family or
friends, so there is nothing that you can do for him but pray for him and give
him distance to get himself better. If nothing else though, get out of the
situation for you and your well being; you need to recover and become healthy
again for you.
Ask yourself
how did you get to this place and why did you allow it? What makes you think that it’s ok for a guy
to disrespect you or to treat you badly?
If you have
to question why he won’t treat you right, then the relationship is unstable and
unhealthy. I know maybe you are apprehensive because the two of you have been
together for so long, or you love him so much, or he doesn’t do it that often,
but if he is treating you badly AT
ALL, that does not equate love.
A man
who loves you is going to celebrate you and cherish you. He is going to want to
protect you and make sure that you are safe and secure; not lay a hand on you
or mentally and emotionally abuse you. In short, he is going to love you and
uplift you; not make you feel less than or insignificant.
Start
seeing yourself as the AMAZING woman
that you are, and as your mindset changes so will your standards.
Love
yourself first; you are worth it.
-Virgin
Monologuez
Love is
patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does
not boast,
it is not
proud.
It does not
dishonor
others, it is not self-seeking,
it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It
always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love
never fails
1 Corinthians 13: 4-8
The Lord was ministering to me about that same verse. Thank you for again posting something that I needed to read.
ReplyDelete@Shar, no problem.
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