I've Moved....

Hi everyone,

 

         I just wanted to let you all know that I’m moving sites, and you can now find me on my company website  at Dorothy Alexa (where I also blog from time to time)!

 

Thank you so much for being a part of my journey thus far, and I look forward to seeing you at my new home: www.dorothyalexa.com. Oh, and  please don’t forget to like us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/dorothyalexa, where you can keep up with the latest updates and  info!!!

 

Thanks again :)

 

My New Home: WWW.DOROTHYALEXA.COM

 

 

What I Was Doing In Asia…

I mentioned in one of my previous posts that I had been living in Southeast Asia for the past two years, and had recently returned back home in July when I wrote and stated that I would be taking a break from blogging. Well, now I’m back from my mini-break and I just wanted to fill you all in on what I was doing while I was there.

The short answer is that I was volunteering.

I had two assignments: my primary assignment was to teach English at a local college, and my second assignment (which I chose personally and that was extremely close to my heart), was mentoring young girls at an orphanage, teaching them English, art, and some life skills.

All in all I am beyond glad that I had the chance to live in a developing country and to step out of my comfort zone because this experience (more so than any other country that I have ever been to or lived in) really pushed me in ways that I didn’t think possible.

Now that I’m back at home, I feel refreshed and ready to apply myself in new ways.

While I was away, in my spare time I was working on some really cool projects which brings me to this new phase that I’m currently in in my life: continuing to mentor young people, but also starting my own online boutique and writing my first book.

There is so much stuff that I could say about my trip, I have a gazillion pictures that I took and could share, and so many interesting stories that I could recount, but I don’t want to bore you more than I probably already have by talking about myself too much, so I’ll just wrap this post up by saying that I’m looking forward to this next phase of my life and I hope that you all will join me!

My next post is going to be a moving announcement, and from here on out I will no longer be blogging here as Virgin Monologuez, but you will now be able to find me at my new company website: www.dorothyalexa.com

Thank you to each and every one of you for all of the messages, emails, and love that you have showed me since I started this blog.

-Hope to see you at my new home J

Let Me Introduce Myself To You- Meet Me :)

Hi all,

I’m back!

As I mentioned in my last post, I recently returned back from Southeast Asia back in July and decided to take the last few months getting back into the swing of things, and visiting family and friends who I haven’t seen in the last TWO YEARS!!!

*** Side note- I’m currently writing a post discussing how it was for me living in Southeast Asia and what I was doing there and will be posting it soon, but for now I just wanted to let you all know that I’m back and I missed sharing things with you all****.

Also, over the within the next week or so, I am going to completely stop blogging here, but you can now find me at my new company’s website (it includes a blog section, shop, and all)! (www.dorothyalexa.com)

I’ve never formally introduced myself to you all (partly because of my occupation then and partly because it wasn’t the right time but more on that in the next post as well), but now is the perfect opportunity for me to do that!

Please either go to my company website: www.dorothyalexa.com or our Facebook page: www.facebook.com/dorothyalexa and like our page! While there you will find out more about me and what I’m currently up to.

In the meantime, while I won’t be writing over on this site much longer (and I hope you would like and follow me to my new home J), but either way, I just want to say thank you to each and every one of you who have supported and subscribed to me. While I was overseas and away from home, having this outlet to express myself and my thoughts carried me many days, so thank you for being there.

♥ Can’t wait to meet you all ♥

Monologue Monday: Letters To My Younger Self #1

There is so much stuff that I would tell my younger self….So MUCH!

Since there is so much that I could say, (and I sat down and just over the course of about ten minutes I was able to write down a list that was at least a couple of pages long, so I’m not exaggerating about the SO MUCH part), but because of this, I honestly had no idea where to start.

Should I start with something funny? Juicy? Sentimental? Embarrassing?

So I figured why not just start with the basics. It may not be all that exciting or noteworthy, but it’s the truth, and it would have saved me a lot of heartache and disappointments had I known it then as I understand it now.

So here goes my first letter to my younger self…. 

Letters To My Younger Self:

Things That I Wish I Knew About Waiting, Dating and Confidence

 

 

Dear Younger Self:

Over the next couple of years, you are going to go through a lot of changes.

People are going to come in and out of your life, guys are going to be confusing, and in the midst of it all, you are going to be trying to find yourself.

My advice to you, (since I’ve kind of lived it already now ), is to learn to love yourself first.

Because you are so young, and understandably naïve in a lot of ways, some people (some of which you hang out with and confide in), are going to try to push you in this direction or that, and they aren’t going to have your best interest at heart…some of them will, but many more aren’t.

Once you learn to love yourself, and to be comfortable with who you are- in this stage that you are in now- what everyone else thinks or what they have to say about you won’t matter as much (if at all), because you will be comfortable with who you are.

As far as the guys who are trying to show you attention and whisper all kinds of non-sense to you, don’t fall for it. (Seriously…I know you want to date, and have fun, and have a boyfriend just like everybody else, but you need to focus on you first).

Besides, as you continue to grow up you will realize that many of those same guys who seemed so interested in you then had different plans than what was your understanding.

Wait on all that stuff until you have a better understanding of who you are….What’s the point of rushing to grow up any way?!?!

Well, that’s about all that I would say to you for now. I know you probably were expecting something grand or life changing, but nope….

My advice to you would simply be to learn to love yourself and to be comfortable with who you are….that simple, but that complex.

****P.S. What about you? What would you say to your younger self?

I know it may seem kinda weird, but it’s actually therapeutic! You can’t change it, so why not write about it and get it all out.*****

Monologue Monday: What Would You Tell Your Younger Self?

Lately I’ve been in a funk and have had no idea what to write about, even though I have really wanted to write and express myself.

So I took a little break, and in that time of relaxing and enjoying life, I questioned my motives and intentions with blogging….trying to remind myself why I started doing this in the first place.

While I admire those who can do 5-7 posts a week, work, AND maintain a life, I realized that isn’t for me. (Even though this week I'll probably end up doing close to that many because I miss ya’ll so much and have so many things that I want to talk about! But the point is, for normal daily living that doesn’t fit my lifestyle).

What works for me, and keeps me passionate about writing, is allowing things to be organic and natural, not calculated and planned. I like writing here a couple times of week, journaling daily, and then going out and making things happen…achieving the goals that I dream about, instead of just talking about them.

I realize that you are probably like ‘where is this all coming from’, or ‘who told you that you HAD to write daily’, but I’m saying all of this for a reason. (I’m just taking a bit longer than I probably should in getting to the point…my apologies).

At any rate, in my realizing that there are no rules to expressing myself or to using the creative outlet of writing to do so, I decided that what was missing from my posts, and was consequently making me feel blah about it all, was me. (Sorry if this is feeling like a therapy session…I really am getting to the point!).

So I decided that what if on the days when no one has shared a story, or a story is still being written/edited, that I just sort of bare it all (for a lack of a better phrase), and put myself out there.

That’s where this new series that I’m about to introduce will be of feature. I’m calling it:

“Letters to My Younger Self: Things That I Wish I Knew About Waiting, Dating, and Confidence”.

(And before I go any further, I just want to give credit where credit is due. This idea stemmed from one of my favorite bloggers, Sarah K, and a different idea came from a reader of this site, Marietta. They both did something similar and I just sort of fused the two together. Sarah writes letters to her younger, single self from time to time, and Marietta wrote a blog post here about ‘What She Wish Her Mother Would Have Told Her’. I think the combination of these two ideas is the perfect prescription for what I’m needing at the moment, so thanks ladies J).

Not only do I think this will be fun, therapeutic, insightful, and will remind me of how far I’ve come, but most importantly, hopefully it will help someone else along the way.

I still plan on doing feature stories of other women on some Monologue Mondays and the Male Perspective interviews from guys, (and will continue to do so indefinitely), and both of which you’ll be getting another post on soon, but in between those times I plan to just have some fun and do one of the things that I do best….writing while expressing myself J

-Hope you’ll stick along for the ride

 

Letters To My Younger Self: Things That I Wish I Knew About Waiting, Dating and Confidence

 

P.S. Next Monday I’ll start this series and at least carry it out to the end of the year (maybe longer…I can think of a TON of things I would tell my younger self, so we’ll just play it by ear and see how it goes). In the meantime, what about you?!?!?!

What’s something that you would tell your younger self about waiting, dating, confidence, self-esteem, relationships, etc???

 

Some Background Information!

I just added a new tab The Purpose to let you know the point of it all and why I do what I do. Please feel free to check it out and give me your feedback.

 

http://virginmonologuez.blogspot.com/p/the-purpose.html

Have a good day J

Do YOU Love Yourself???

Every couple of weeks I check Virgin Monologuez’s statistical data to see what topics people are searching for when they come to this site. Recently, I noticed that one of the key terms that have been leading some of you here has been the topic of self-esteem. Thus, people are looking up in their search bar how to have confidence, how to build up their self-esteem, and how to be secure in their own skin.

This got me to thinking, and after praying and asking God to show me a way that we can stop tearing ourselves down and start celebrating ourselves, He gave me the idea of “Love Yourself”.

“Love Yourself” is going to be a time where we take our eyes off of other people and what they are doing, and we start celebrating who we are and the growth that is happening in us. I know that you are probably a fabulous person so I just want you to write a quick note telling me, (and reminding yourself), why!

So, for the entire month of February we are going to try to shift our mindsets and start thinking positively. Each day I will post one reason why I love myself, (I can be hard on myself sometimes too!), and I encourage you to do the same. You can either comment underneath my post or you can comment on the site’s Facebook page.

The purpose of this isn’t to be arrogant or conceited, but rather it’s to stop focusing on our flaws and to start celebrating who and where we are in our lives. I’m not going to be writing for you and you aren’t going to be commenting for anyone else but yourself, so please feel free to keep it anonymous if you so desire.

All you have to do is just comment each day telling yourself something that you love about you. Whether it’s a physical attribute, an emotional or mental quality, or something sociologically that you love about yourself, join me in celebrating these qualities and building up your self-esteem.

There are tons of people trying to tear you down….let’s start building ourselves back up!

So what do you think? Are you in???

-Virgin Monologuez

You Are Invited! “Love Yourself” When: 1 February- 28 February 2013 Why: To celebrate who you are, embracing and loving every aspect about yourself. Even with flaws and shortcomings you are still a great person. What: Write about anything at all that you love about yourself. Don’t worry about what anyone else may think or what they have to say about it. This is why you love yourself. So whether it’s something physical, emotional, mental or spiritual, if you love it, say it out loud! Your opinion is the only opinion that matters. Where: Write one comment each day either on this site or on our Facebook page telling yourself something that you love about yourself. It’s only 28 days so hopefully you can think of at least 28 reasons why you love yourself. Who: Anyone (Can be anonymous…it’s for you not me)! *If you want to keep it anonymous just click on the comment section below and sign in as anonymous*

Friday's Going to be Good Ya'll

Hey everyone, how’s your week going?

Just wanted to post a quick update to let you all know that we have a really good interview coming up for Friday’s post. It’s from an ex-boyfriend, turned really good friend, who I respect and admire more than anything.

I was intrigued by his thought process the entire time that I was taking notes- you really won’t want to miss what he had to say.

He was funny, insightful, and raw.

Talk to you soon,

P.S. Don’t forget to bring along a good snack (or two) J

I'm Thinking What???

I have so many thoughts running through my head constantly, so I decided why not share them with my peeps (you allJ)! So from this point forward, I am going to post little segments that I like to call “Moment of Truth”, where I write down what I am thinking as it relates to this blog (i.e. virginity, sex, abstinence, self-esteem…well you get the picture).

Now, what I need from you is a no-judgment pass. Some of my thoughts can kind of be … well you’ll see soon enoughJ, but nevertheless they are MY RANDOM thoughts, and I thought I would share them with you!

Stay tuned for the 1^st Moment of Truth!

Welcome to Virgin Monologuez

Hi All! To all of my future followers, thanks for reading my blog! I’m just a southern girl trying to make a difference in the world. Hopefully you find me candid, encouraging, and engaging. So go grab some snacks, a drink, snuggle up and let’s chat…..

Stay tuned for Monologue Monday!