Moment of Truth:

Don’t give up…People are waiting on you to rise up and be who you were called to be.

There is greatness on the inside of you. Don’t run from it…embrace it J!

Moment of Truth:

Ok, so I’m talking directly to myself with this one, but here’s my most recent Moment of Truth:

“You always have a voice, but you shouldn’t always voice that opinion”

Moment of Truth:

It’s sometimes easier to judge others than it is to face ourselves.

What’s your truth?

Moment of Truth:

“We are not defined by our mistakes. We are defined by what we’re able to overcome.”

                                                                                                                                                                          -Tasha Smith (Actress)

Moment of Truth: Dare To Take Chances

“The first guy through the wall always gets bloody”

-Don’t Give Up…Especially When It Gets Hard

-Brad Pitt in ‘Moneyball’- Sorry for the sports quote

but it really spoke to me today

Moment of Truth

As long as you think you can’t, you won’t.

-Believe in yourself-

Moment of Truth: It's Not Over Yet :)

Monologue Monday: Comparing Yourself to Others

I talk a lot about comparing one’s self and being envious of others here on this site. I personally believe that there is a direct correlation between comparing yourself to others and having low self-esteem.

Once you begin feeling bad about yourself, not only does this affect your confidence and self-worth, but this kind of thinking can roll over into your relationships, can have an effect on your dreams and aspirations, and can determine whether or not you apply yourself in life or you sit back and watch as others go after their dreams while you unrightfully feel insecure or as though you don’t measure up.

Before I go any further, I want to say that you do measure up and you are more than enough.

Once you start believing things about yourself, they become your truth and you live your life accordingly. (Which is why it is so important to speak positive things. Even if you don’t feel positive, I dare you to start speaking positively anyway and watch the difference that it makes in your life).

The more that you think about all of the things that are wrong with you, the worse you feel about yourself. Likewise, the more you start thinking about and speaking aloud the things that you admire and appreciate about yourself, the sooner you see yourself as the jewel that you really are.

This may mean taking drastic measures such as cutting back on social media or not reading some of your favorite magazines, but the reality is that sometimes these things are a distraction. You get so caught up in someone else’s life (that they are editing for the sake of only showing you the best or most envious parts), that you start resenting or hating your own life.

BEING YOU IS MORE THAN ENOUGH.

Don’t compare yourselves to others. In the media, things are seriously rarely ever as they appear. Even those “glamorous girls” that you wish you could be more like are not necessarily the exact way that they are being portrayed publicly.

You don’t go home with people privately, so you have no idea how they are really living their personal lives.

I used to get so caught up in this. I was one of those girls who would look at my friends facebook pages and feel like I was so far behind, or I would look in a magazine and think about all of the things that could be better about my own body, but at some point enough became enough.

If you live your entire life wishing that it was composed of elements of someone else’s life whose life have you actually lived?

Aren’t you more important than illusions or the editing of some producer or editor-in-chief whose sole purpose is to make you feel as though you are missing out on something so that you can covet the lifestyle that they are trying to sell you?

Don’t get caught up in the hype!

I’m grateful to say that this phase of my life, where I thought that I wasn’t enough or wanted to be like someone else, only lasted a little while. But I’m writing about it today because every once in a while it does try to come back and make me loose focus, but that’s when I fight back.

I refuse to be a carbon copy of anyone when I can be an original who sets her own trends and standards.

Live your life for you because it’s that precious. Even if everyone else in the world is doing something drastically different, you don’t fit in, or other people just don’t get you, do it anyway because you could be the catalyst for change that so many need to see.

Never stop being you and do it with style and conviction! Being you is MORE THAN ENOUGH J.

 

Moment of Truth: Love Sustains

“There are many in the world who are dying for a piece of bread, but there are many more dying for a little love”.

-Mother Teresa of Calcutta



Moment of Truth: Are You Your Greatest Fear?

Don’t let fear keep you from reaching your potential. If you believe that you can do something, you can do it. Don’t allow doubt or fear to tell you otherwise. Believe in yourself...You Are Worth It.

 

Moment of Truth: I Can’t Give Up Now

My story isn’t just about me so if my life’s journey is a testament or an encouragement to even just one person then it’s all worth it.

Trials, I’m not focusing on you. My mind is set on the bigger picture. When it gets difficult, that just means I have to push a little harder.

©I can’t give up now…I’m too close to my destiny©

Moment of Truth & Male Week

“Sometimes you have to be your own cheerleader. Regardless if you have other people encouraging and supporting you or not, you still have to be there and encourage and support yourself. Don’t give up…you can make it! J”

Moment of Truth

Ya’ll this past week was hard for me. Really hard actually. I was feeling under the weather and just very blah….

Despite how I felt though, I couldn’t stay in that state of mind so I had to encourage myself and push myself to keep going (even though what I really wanted to do was lie in my bed under a bunch of covers and watch a ton of movies), but I couldn’t do that. I have work to do and deadlines to meet, so I couldn’t allow my physical or emotional state to get the best of me.

Staying positive and reminding myself that it was ok to feel however it was that I was feeling just as long as I didn’t stay in that place, (as well as getting some rest so that my body could rejuvenate), made the world of difference.

I’m still not feeling a hundred percent like myself, but I’m ready and willing to take on anything that life is going to throw at me this week.

So remember to cheer yourself on and to encourage yourself no matter what is happening around about you. If you think better, you feel better…

And don’t think that I’m some optimistic romanticist (…and maybe I am…but that’s not really the point!). The point is that I have real problems just like anybody else, and there are some days that really try to get to me, but I realize that life is short and my time is precious, so I refuse to spend it being angry, pessimistic or negative.

So stay encouraged and be positive! Life is too beautiful and full of wonderful experiences not to.

Male Week

Oh, and in other news, a couple of days ago one of my guy friends called me up and reminded me that I have male readers reading this site too! So in an effort not to alienate anyone (and because I think that it would be fun), I decided that this entire week I would dedicate to the chaps following this site J.

So, we are going to start off with a Monologue Monday post on “How to Treat A Guy” (a requested post…by a male reader), then on Wednesday or Thursday we are going to do a post on “Can Guys and Girls Just Be Friends”, followed by Part 2 of my brother’s Male’s Perspective Interview (on either Friday or Saturday). In between these times, I might post little things here and there in appreciation towards all the guys out there doing their thing and making a difference in the world.

 So enough talking for now… off to edit Monday’s Monologue…..talk to you in a bit.

-Virgin Monologuez

Don’t Despise Small Beginnings

Don’t feel defeated, and don’t give up.

Where you’re at is not your permanent destination….

It’s merely grounds of preparation to prepare you for what is to come:

Greatness

Moment of Truth:

Be humble and take nothing for granted. There’s always someone else waiting next in line to take your place.

Esther 1:19- …And Vashti was never again allowed to enter into the king’s presence… and her position was given to someone better than she.

Moment of Truth:

Surround yourself with positive people.

I just had one of the most inspiring conversations with an incredible person last night, and it made me even more motivated to go after my dreams!

-You only live once, so make the most out of this life ♥

#GoHard

Moment of Truth:

Being single is not a curse! When we learn how to be happy with ourselves, then we can be happy with a significant other….Be comfortable with yourself FIRST before you try bringing someone else into the picture. Relationship gratification can only get you so far before you are looking for something else to fill that void you are looking to fill…get healthy first J!

                                                -Ms. B (paraphrased by me)

Moment of Truth:

True love waits…Not just physically, but for the RIGHT ONE.

Moment of Truth:

I am the most content when those around me are ok… I don’t base my happiness off of others, but I LOVE seeing other people happy.

When are you the happiest???

Moment of Truth:

Sometimes I imagine my daddy (who died when I was tips), looking down on me from Heaven and it always stops me dead in my tracks from doing anything that he might disapprove of or that I may regret. If I wouldn’t do it in front of my family, then most of the times I know that I probably shouldn’t be doing it at all.

Moment of Truth:

I wish that we would stop tearing each other down, and start lifting and building each other up.

What does one gain by breaking someone else’s spirit…haven’t you been there? It doesn’t feel good.